[Kmbpeace1171]

Trying to figure this out and I dont mean in the physical sense I mean emotionally who is safe to open up to and talk to about this? My counselor has suggested I stop going into detail with facebook friends as it is damaging me further and causing me to fear my new nice safe apartment more than I need to fear it, so I am working on having a filter again. any help?

[Perna]

It's a personal thing; I'd say you have to get to know people and how they respond to you on other issues, to tell if they'll be a safe person to talk to. Yes, just posting stuff on Facebook without the personal, face-to-face discussion so you can get the sense of the person's reaction rather than just words, that would not feel safe to me. I'd keep whoever you tell on a one-to-one relationship level; not tell multiple people who you aren't in direct contact with or who don't "need" to know?

Think who you would like to know your problems, who you would most like to help you with them and only tell those people? Just telling people to hopefully "spread" a sense of anxiety and get it "out" of you is not necessarily a good idea. Some people will reflect it back, can't help you with it and don't know how to react so will respond in uncomfortable ways that will just make you feel bad for having told them only by then, it will be too late.