[Blakeney]

Although I worked all my married life, I found that my husband placed all assets in his name, only. If I ask any questions, he becomes volatile and angry. We are about to sign Wills, and I do not want to do it before having my name added as a co-owner, rather than as Transfer-on-Death, Pay-on-Death. Under TOD and POD, beneficiaries can be changed anytime.........without my consent. What to do? What to do?

[lynn P.]

How long have you been married to your husband? Usually when couples buy a house, they both go to sign on the mortgage. I don't know what the laws are where you live but here in Canada, the lawyer will explain the Will to you separately and you don't have to sign it if you don't feel comfortable. If you were to divorce I think you're entitled to half of all assets. I'm in a similar situation with the verbal abuse and volatile temper but not the name on assets. If you're working then your name should be on the assets too. If you don't think his demeanor will improve you should leave this marriage IMO, although I know this is easier said than done. Do you have children? Don't sign anything you don't want to.