Am I Reading Too Much Into This?

I don't know what to think about all of this at this point. I was reading a post on sexual abuse/assault. I was reading the part about unwanted touching and it shocked the hell out of me!

Not only does my bf emotionally abuse me, but there is a chance he's sexually abusing me, too! You see my bf is constantly touching my breasts, rear, and vaginal area...I tell him to stop, I'm not in the mood. He gets immediately angry and starts having one of his temper tantrums. After a few hours of not touching me, he'll start touching me again whether I want him to or not...then at night he'll start touching me while I'm sleeping...or when he thinks I'm sleeping.

I just don't know how to take this at this point.

Lex....I am not sure I have the answer but if you are feeling like it is inappropiate and you tell him to STOP...
Well, NO MEANS NO!
Can you stay @ a friends?

I really don't have any friends around here! I'm really stuck right now...

Go to a crisis center they always have rape crisis fliers and brochures on display for anyone to just come in and pick. (they know how hard it is for some to come right out and say can I have some info or I was abused or Im not sure if I am) Those brochures and fliers explains what is and isnt considered sexual abuse. then leave them out on a stand or table. the fact that something new is sitting around will get him to look at it and read it. If he asks why you have it you can say nothing or say its for school, your doctor was handing them out to all the clients whatever you are comfortable with. Then if he starts in tell him "no" and when he starts again say - "no means no or it is sexual abuse, molestation/ rape (which ever term defines what he is trying to do) back off, You have the right to say no and so do I an right now I am saying no" and if you have to hand him the brochure in the process.

You are not his object for his gratification - he has 2 hands and access to a free restroom for that. You are a human being and he should be respecting you as one.

Bottom line NO means No or it is against the law.

Lex...I want you to be in a safe place. Where could you go?
Can you have bf leave?
I want to help in anyway I can.
I am sorry you are going thru this. I know how triggering is must be.
Please KEEP SAFE! And please, find shelter.
Thinking of you.
I am here for you.

Dear Lex,

Hmm - this is a hard one or at least an issue that walks a very fine line.... while no one has the right to touch you against your wishes we are talking about your lover here and yet that still does not make it any more right.

IMHO - I think the touching by your b/f while he is a wake is him trying to get you in the mood for sex (with him) - and him touching you while you are a sleep might be him trying to wake you so that you two can make love.... his way of being with you with out fear of being rejected.... but no matter what, no one should ever proceed in to any situation with out being invited by the other partner.

LoVe,
Rhapsody -