[Solamara]

I've had a friend now for over 4 years. Our friendship has been rocky from the get go do to many emotional issues on both parts. One thing that has stood out most was when she was upset about something in her life, she'd take it out me. I'd get long winded email where she'd call me names, or she would refuse to talk to me. Sometimes she's yell at me and cry that I did things to her or said things to her that never really happened. Whatever the case, I became very emotionally dependent on her, so much so, that I've completely lost my since of self. She became my world, no matter how many times she hurt me, I always became her friend again and the pattern would continue. Then, she would go and tell people that I had done these terrible things to her, to gain their favor and turn everyone against me. She has recently chosen to not talk to me again, for reasons unknown to me once again. Am I being stupid by hoping that she'll come back again? Or should I just let it go?

[Trippin2.0]

4 words: She's Not Your Friend...
Friends don't intentionally hurt eachother for ANY reason. We protect eachother b.c for whatever individual reason, we're the family we both never had... Hun, I don't know your friend, and she probly has some good, attractive qualities, but she clearly isn't a friend, or doesn't know how to be 1. Goodluck. XOXO

[Sannah]

Sounds like you are both locked into this abusive relationship (she is the perp and you are the victim). You are probably repeating a pattern here?

[lynn P.]

I agree she's not a friend at all and I don't think you should talk to her even if she apologizes. She'll just continue to repeat this dysfunctional behavior. Don't get locked into a toxic friendship.

[Resident Panther]

Not your friend. Can you say dump-off pass?

But for real, an abusive relationship is no relationship at all. Do yourself a big favor and cut ties with this destructive person.