[rumples]

is whipping someone with a towel considered abuse?

i i can barely sit sobs

[Open Eyes]

(((((rumples))))
Oh I am sorry, no one should be hitting you with a wet towel and hurting you.

What happened, if you want to talk we will listen.

((((HUGS))))
Open Eyes

Yes, I would definitely say this is abuse. Sometimes people do this as a joke, but the way you describe it sounds to me like this wasn't a joke...this sounds like they meant to hurt you, and that's abuse.

[rumples]

he's he's drunk sobs i i dont think he ment it to hurt but sobs still abuse?

Originally Posted by rumples

he's he's drunk sobs i i dont think he ment it to hurt but sobs still abuse?

Yes, it's still abuse. Being drunk is not an excuse for hurting someone...I'm sorry this happened to you.

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[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by rumples

is whipping someone with a towel considered abuse?

i i can barely sit sobs

here in NY USA this is not considered an abuse per se. it is considered to be a sport with the likes of pillow fighting (hitting with pillows) paint (using paint guns to go after each other) dodge ball (hitting each other with balls), Boxing, fist fighting (hitting each other with gloved fists), Red Indian (taking turns hitting each others hands until one yells "uncle" or "red Indian"

the only time such sporting activities are considered to be abusive is if they are done out of anger / form of discipline.

if the person using the towel was drunk and just messing around / joking around / playing a consentual game with you no its not abuse if you lived in NY.

if the person using the towel was angry because you did something wrong and was using a towel to discipline/punish you, yes it would be if you lived in NY.

I dont know whether your state considers towel flicking / towel battles / towel wars/ hitting with towels a sport or not. and I dont know whether these things are considered a form of abuse where you are.

all states have their own rules about whats abuse and what isnt, just like all countries have their own standards of whats abusive or not. So I cant tell you if something was abusive for you or not. only you and those in your location can do that.

you can find out by calling your police department, child welfare office, or if you are a child /teen ager you can call one of your school teachers, the school nurse or your school psychologist. if you have a medical doctor or therapist they too can tell you if where you are this was abusive.

[kindachaotic]

(((((rumples))))). So, so sorry you are being subjected to this.

Being drunk is NO excuse to treat someone this way, no matter how old they are.

I definitely think this is abuse, physically, emotionally & mentally.

Sounds like you are fairly young. If these "whippings" are a frequent occurrence, this IS abuse!! Talk to a counselor, teacher, nurse, coach, anyone at your school to make them aware of your home life.

I didn't read your profile so if you are over 18 yrs try to find some where else to live or call the police. You can call the police anyway, at any age.

Rumples, you are in my prayers.

[JLarissaDragon]

I totally agree with the others that being drunk is never an excuse for behavior. His behavior was disgusting. I do not know his intentions, but obviously you were hurt by it and that borders on abuse. I suppose that a lot depends on whether it was done in anger or not in terms of whether it rises to the level of abuse that warrants intervention by authorities. I would urge you to talk about this with a counselor at school if you feel can trust them. In my state the law requires teachers and counselors to report child abuse. At the very least his behavior was very inappropriate since obviously you feel upset and hurt. The creep should know better. Perhaps getting a call from an authority would help him wise up.

[SoupDragon]

Are you safe now?

[pegasus]

Yes it is abuse and you need to get away from the person abusing you.

[rumples]

he's gone today with my sister, they are going sliding

[dazeofdolphins]

Yes. It is abusive. Any tools used while expressing punishment is considered abusive. I hope you can find a safe place to turn. Contact your local county office for supportive resources and get help. We are here for you and will continue to listen.

I'm heartbroken you're having to endure such sadistic abuse that's being played off as a game or a joke ... That makes it even sicker ... It's not funny, it's not a joke, and it's wounding you physically and emotionally ...

Here's a link for victims of Domestic Violence in Minnesota ... I don't know if it's close to where you live or not ... Contact them though and I'm sure they can provide you with the help and referrals you need closer to where you're at ...

http://360communities.org/contact.aspx

You don't have to stay in this toxic environment, and Domestic Violence Centers are really good helping women to escape their dangerous situations and helping them with housing, training, jobs and permanent housing ...

[mandamoo42]

i can only agree with what the others have said, it IS abuse and it IS wrong, i hope you can get yourself to a safe place and away frm this sicko ((((hugs)))) and god bless...