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May 05, 2012, 02:26 AM
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So, how do you get over a relationship (meaning a friendship) that had abusive qualities about it.. that you weren't sure were "abusive" but, you miss the person and want to see them again? Why do I feel so abandoned and hurt and empty and why do I think of him when my self esteem is sort of low?
I remember- the same incident of many though, keep popping in my head- He was singing the song by Kesha-Take it Off and going up my shirt and laughing and yeah. He was being silly as usual but, that was the beginning of some other things for a year. for some reason I am being too sensitive about this I think. or when he wouldn't do it rough at all but, he would grab me by the arm or push/shove/pull me to tell me that I had to follow him or go wherever we we're suppose to go when I was with others and hanging out and didn't want to leave the room. I am trying to write about whats effecting me the most in this moment- or at least the memories that are roaming through my head in this moment. I just didn't like when he would talk about my body. Or compare me to other girls my age. A lot of this was in a joking format which confuses me. I guess I should of spoke up more in this friendship. I don't know if I knew how at the time. the names he called me keep floating through my head-*****, slut, *****- again, in a joking format usually. Ughhh. And I suppose he didn't have to kiss me but, I think he was doing that to figure out if he liked me more then a friend. Guys do this all the time I think. However, he didn't have to ask me to have sex in his car- that didn't happen- I was too angry when he asked this. Any advice? I feel like I did something wrong in this friendship. I maybe could have found a way to speak up for myself better. I could have been less sensitive and emotional about things when talking to him. idk. All I know is it makes me so sad and the memories won't stop.
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May 05, 2012, 02:34 AM
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Saying goodbye is never easy. I was in a very toxic relationship 8 years ago and I still mourned the ending and it was hard to figure out in the moment but as time goes by you see the light that you are looking for right now. Just try to keep busy and train your mind in the meantime to say NO when your ex pops into your mind. Hugs
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May 05, 2012, 02:42 AM
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so do you feel you see things differently now or have figured out what about that relationship went wrong?
oh yeah, i'm not sure if it was toxic but, I just edited the post to express myself about it.
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--- A bird doesn't sing because it has all the answers, it sings because it has a song.Maya Angelou. so sing. Jazz, sing. --jazzy123456 ---------------------------- "You're not here merely to make a living. You are here to enable the world to live more amply, with greater vision, and with a finer spirit of hope and achievement. You are here to enrich the world. You impoverish yourself if you forget this errand." (Woodrow Wilson)
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May 05, 2012, 10:01 AM
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Are you forming relationships with healthy people? If not, then you will be lonely and you will miss previous relationships even if they were abusive.
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