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Aug 10, 2012, 11:05 PM
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was probably nothing anyway.
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Aug 13, 2012, 12:23 PM
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Sounds like it was a good question..........
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Aug 13, 2012, 02:32 PM
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when talking about your family to t. it feels like it is. and that i should say nothing.
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Aug 13, 2012, 03:24 PM
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I don't think anything you say to your therapist can be considered betrayal of anyone. If it affects you, it's something that should be discussed. Your T will keep it confidential.
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Aug 13, 2012, 06:49 PM
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Is this what your family told you? To stay quiet?
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Aug 13, 2012, 07:19 PM
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((suzzie)),
I had the same feeling, and I think many others do as well. I felt that is was wrong for me to talk about "family secrets" and that I was somehow betraying "my family" if I did. And that is the message that many families give off, that what goes on inside the home is private, non of other people's business. But there were also things that I was afraid to tell anyone too. It took a lot for me to open up with my therapist and get beyond this feeling. But since I did that slowly I realized that "it was MY business" and I needed to get help with it because it did hurt me. And I had to learn how much it was never my fault. So, you are not alone in feeling this Suzzie. I am so glad you shared this question so that you learn that this is a very common feeling. ((((Hugs))) Open Eyes Last edited by Open Eyes; Aug 13, 2012 at 10:35 PM. |
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Aug 14, 2012, 12:51 AM
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not only was i told to never say anything bad about our family. i did a good job of that. but i was also always told that social workers, police, and such were bad. and to stay away from them no matter. do not trust them ever.
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Aug 14, 2012, 07:54 AM
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That is what abusers do....to make sure they keep you silent. THe abusers are the ones not to be trusted...social workers, police, etc....are there to help.
If you break the cycle of silence, then and only then can you bring out the pain and begin to understand what happened and begin to process it. |
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Aug 14, 2012, 12:00 PM
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Quote:
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