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Oct 18, 2012, 09:30 PM
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My Self Help Mental Wellness program talks about being "patient (patient!) with where I am today".
So tonight, I did not go to my Alanon meeting, as planned. I got scared, again, to ride the bus. I am so scared to ride the bus because I still am convinced to a man that all I am is some (bad name) that deserves to be m**e*t*d and "asking for it". I have no friends to drive me. Also, no women's Alanon nearby. I hate the bus (shared this before). G*d. Yesterday, it was crowded again. Ani talked me thru it. I remember vaguely him telling me, "Carol, you were programmed to feel like men could do whatever the h they liked to you. And this is false! You must know this! And what your friend told you was not true! You do not ask for it, you do not invite it, there is no stamp on your forehead!" Today, at Self Help, he told me that as long as I went along with my "program" that "all I am is a (bad name; anti-woman)" I will not get on with my life because I will keep on being paralyzed with fear. I must be patient with myself. And also visualize feeling like an okay woman, not a (bad name). thanks, Carol
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Oct 19, 2012, 03:00 PM
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Another good plan,
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Oct 19, 2012, 06:50 PM
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Tonight, if I go out, I am going to imagine them all being cartoon characters. lol
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Oct 22, 2012, 06:32 PM
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I did not make it out.
Patience, Carol.
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Oct 24, 2012, 06:29 PM
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I ran some errands yesterday; felt stronger. Bus pass reload, groceries, bank.
I was exhausted when I got home, but felt more powerful. Carol
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Oct 26, 2012, 02:01 PM
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Very good Carol
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