[likewater]

My bfriend became abusive after i was baptized and we stopped sleeping together. I just broke up with him. We had been together over 5 years. As a child, i was used for sex and i feel like every man i've dated has used me. I don't think i'll trust anyone again. I feel violated, dirty, used, humiliated all over again.

[mazing]

I'm sorry to hear that your ex was not supportive I know it must be very hard at the moment but there are some good guys out there and in time you will be able to trust again.

Hang in there. You have not done anything wrong.

[Leed]

Please -- you are NOT "dirty." You may have been violated, but sweetie, you are not "dirty."

Don't let a man let you feel that way. Don't give away your power. Men aren't worth that! He must be a real "piece of work" to have abused you. Any man who abuses a woman is no "man." He's an animal.

Don't waste your time even grieving for the loss of this creep because he obviously didn't care what he did to you. If he did, he wouldn't have abused you. I can understand grieving for the loss of A relationship, but not the man.

There ARE MANY good guys out there my friend -- and I know you'll find one, but make sure you don't look for someone just like this guy. Sometimes we're attracted to the same KIND of guys that hurt us. We have to be careful not to choose the same KIND of guys -- look for a different kind of guy, who will be caring, loving and gentle. I'm SURE you'll find one. They're out there.

I wish you the very best. Please take care of yourself. God bless! Hugs, Lee

[Silent_Tears_17]

Originally Posted by Leed

Please -- you are NOT "dirty." You may have been violated, but sweetie, you are not "dirty."

Don't let a man let you feel that way. Don't give away your power. Men aren't worth that! He must be a real "piece of work" to have abused you. Any man who abuses a woman is no "man." He's an animal.

Don't waste your time even grieving for the loss of this creep because he obviously didn't care what he did to you. If he did, he wouldn't have abused you. I can understand grieving for the loss of A relationship, but not the man.

There ARE MANY good guys out there my friend -- and I know you'll find one, but make sure you don't look for someone just like this guy. Sometimes we're attracted to the same KIND of guys that hurt us. We have to be careful not to choose the same KIND of guys -- look for a different kind of guy, who will be caring, loving and gentle. I'm SURE you'll find one. They're out there.

I wish you the very best. Please take care of yourself. God bless! Hugs, Lee

Thank you so much for this. after csa and an abusive bf at 15 i have refused to date or even consider it. 1m 17 now and your message was really empowering. thank you so much,

[Silent_Tears_17]

I am sorry for your lost but I am really glad you're away from such a looser. It seems to be almost "normal" to feel dirty and used and humiliated, Many, if not most, do. But you must remember these feelings you have are distorted. you must remember the beautiful and amazing woman you are.

[likewater]

Originally Posted by Silent_Tears_17

I am sorry for your lost but I am really glad you're away from such a looser. It seems to be almost "normal" to feel dirty and used and humiliated, Many, if not most, do. But you must remember these feelings you have are distorted. you must remember the beautiful and amazing woman you are.

Thanks. Sending the same thoughts back at you.

[BrokenNBeautiful]

I am so sorry your relationship had to end because he was abusive to you.

You are not dirty. What he did was dirty and what happened to you was dirty. You are okay. You are clean, you are okay. It was not your fault.

so sorry, so sorry.

Carol