[Shardsofhope]

My mom sent me a passive aggressive Mother's Day card.

I've asked her over and over again not to contact me unless it's with an apology. She keeps sending these cards. They make me want to throw up. I can't stop thinking about it. It sends me into the PTSD whirlpool of panic again. I hate this. I just want her to stop.

Years of abuse, never being good enough, always being the sole reason for her unhappiness. I'll always be my father in her eyes. My family thinks it's not that big of a deal, except my aunt who says she needs to get over herself. The only one who's stood up for me. Yelled at my mom while
I was in hospital for my first OD. "You don't know how this happened?? This happened because you decided you didn't want children anymore. Guess what? You almost succeeded!"

I feel sick. I can't handle her in my life. This is why I've removed her from it.

[ThisWayOut]

I've had similar experiences with abusive family that just won't leave... it sucks. I'm sorry it causes so much turmoil. I can understand the feelings and rustled symptoms. Hope you can find a way to block her out finally.

[shezbut]

(((Shardsofhope)))

I can relate. I get sappy, lovey-dovey cards from my mom as well. I hate them! I just throw them away (in recycle-ables) every time. I used to get perturbed by them. Now, forget it. It's not worth wasting my energy getting all worked up ~ I just think, "Whatever! A waste of her money and time."

Perhaps you will find yourself in that same state of mind soon. I hope so. It would be better if we could work things out with our parents, but that isn't always possible. We just need to go forward and continue life on terms that we're comfortable with. Working with a T, to help us to that acceptable position helps, imo.

Gentle hugs to you.....

[Frankbtl]

Hi, it must be really difficult having your mum intruding in your life, dredging up a lot of things I'm sure you'd like to put behind you. Have you stopped asking her not to contact you- if not just completely cut off communication with her (she should know the score by now) otherwise you're just going to be giving her a reaction, which she's looking for.
Could you go to the police describing the situation and citing it as harassment- they may have a word with her at the very least.
Do you think a counsellor will help with some of your feelings- if you aren't already seeing one- your doctor may be able to refer you, inc. sounds as if your aunt may be there to support you if you discuss this with her too. Your aunt may even step up for you to your mum again if you tell her about it?
Sorry if this isn't that helpful, just trying to think of some ideas.

[BrokenNBeautiful]

Those guilt trips, that punishing attitude they have.

I can't stand it, either.

They are the ones who need to know what they did. Not you. You did not do anything to her. You don't deserve this.

Carol