[Daeva]

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[SimonSays1]

We all have choices in life. I was raised by bullies and abusive parents. I had a bully grandfather. I was bullied in grade school, bullied in highschool, and bullied at home. We all have choices in life and must deal with the hand we are dealt with. Children are children and often don't know better. However, adults are responsible for their own actions and must be held accountable (regardless of their past).

If you are a changed person now then I commend you. However, if you are still a destructive adult, still a bully, or have childen of your own and passing the legacy on to them... You will have no one to blame but yourself and I pity you. Abuse is a pattern and cycle of negativity. Only you can break it.

[Daeva]

Nah I'm not a bully anymore, I eventually broke into pieces and began to be able to see past my own nose and my own misery and could see the agony in others' eyes. Of course I understood pain so well by then that I could easily empathize with others. Then I looked back and saw the agony I caused and knew nothing I could do could absolve me of that. I became much more loving, and much kinder. After much soul searching and what not I came into my true self, and am now in college to be a therapist. I'm not the person I use to be. I want to help others, I want to heal others pains.

I was never proud of who I use to be, In fact i hide it from so many people because I usually get alot of hate for it, and people judge me when they've never had the experiences I, and you, have had. I always look up to those who were in situations like me and were able to not take it out on others. I had so much self-hatred and it just spilled onto others. But I like I said I am not that person anymore, and I am in therapy and I volunteer and help others now while I study to help more people in the future.

Also, I have no kids, but never, ever, ever, ever, EVER would I EVER harm any children, ever.

[blueredgrey]

Dear Daeva,

You were just a child....if there is anyone who should have felt what you felt - it's your abuser.

As a child, when you are abused - it affects and changes you. All that pain and anger has to go somewhere.....some people take it on the inside......some people take it on the world.

I took most of my pain inside....but I am ashamed to say that I bullied a boy in my neighborhood .

But ultimately....the only person responsible for it is the abuser. When a child misbehaves - an adult is the culprit for it.

Work with your T.....and my best wishes for you on being social worker.

Good luck!!