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Apr 21, 2014, 03:07 AM
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When I was 11 my Dad put me in the bathtub and bathed me. At one point he had me stand up while he washed me. He didn't fondle me or anything like that. But I remember feeling VERY uncomfortable about this. Now this could have been because I had been raped and molested by neighbor kids several years before and carried shame about that. But I'm still really bothered by this memory. Any thoughts about this?
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Apr 21, 2014, 01:23 PM
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Hello,
It depends at the age of 11 whether your body had started changing or not, into an adolescent. I think that would make a big difference in this. Perfectly normal for a Dad to wash his own child but one that is 11, I'm not sure. Why was he needed to wash you at the time? Were you ill?
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Apr 21, 2014, 01:26 PM
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This is a discussion to see someone about especially if you are bothered by it today. Have you sought out counseling or therapy? My parents bathed me and I had no qualms about it because they were my parents and they loved me. Rape is another topic and perhaps working with a professional could help you come to terms with what happened and shed light on how it is affecting your life and thoughts.
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Apr 21, 2014, 09:21 PM
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At the very least it was inappropriate. And forget the label of abuse or not. It's really about how it made you feel. I had a similar traumatic experience from my mother and she used it as a way to control and humiliate me. Was it sexual? I don't know. Was it about power, just like abuse and rape? Most certainly.
Focus on how it made you feel, not putting a label on it. I feel like I understand your confusion and guilt or shame about this experience. Feel free to message me if you need to talk. Seesaw Sent from my SCH-I415 using Tapatalk
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Apr 22, 2014, 04:45 PM
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