[Coldhardtruth]

I have a story to share.

3 years ago I was drunk raped, some people may say I deserve it but they did not know what was the truth, they did not know then for this 3 years I still live in the pain of it.

3 years ago, I and another 3 friends went out... We went to one of the guy's place, he was a new friend, and he had a dog, being a animal lover I adore dogs so much. That day, we went to this guy's place lets name him Jack, he was a nice guy as he invited me and another two friends who are a couple, over to his place it was in the afternoon, around 3pm. I had curfew back then so I needed to leave about 6pm. Jack took out a bottle of hard liquor and he started pouring for us, so I told him I didn't want to drink so he said just drink abit since I have already opened the bottle so out of not making things bad I took a few sip of it. Followed by that i decided to log on to the internet to check my facebook. Suddenly he sat beside me with his left hand over my shoulder and his right hand forcing a cup of hard liquor to ask me to drink. As he was a muscular size guy and being a petite girl i couldn't fight back, as i kept pushing him away, he used more force each time he placed the cup against my face and force te liquor into my mouth and unfortunately the liquor was force into my mouth and down into my tummy. i started feeling tipsy as i was a very bad drinker. I went to the toilet to wash myself up as there were liquor spilled all over my shirt. it was drenched with liquor, as you guys could imagine the force he used. so i left the toilet and told my girl friend and said i wanted to go home and she said okay however Jack stopped me and said stay for awhile i said no however while waiting for myy friend to pack up and leave i knockout on the sofa. That was what i could remembered and i also could remember feeling pain at my private part and trying so hard to push him off me but i knockout again and after that when i wokeup i saw my clothes were changed and my friend beside me calling me. My girl friend that relate to me what had happen. She mentioned that after i knockout , Jack kissed me on the lips and then when my friend stopped him he offered to carry me to the toilet to wash up so my friend help the Jack told my girl friend that he will let me rest in his room my friend said okay while she went back to the living room to check on her boyfriend who was also got drunk by Jack forcing liquor down him as well. When my girl friend went to the room to check the door was locked. She called me fwhor hours and till 9pm when the guy's parents came home that was when they managed open the room door and found me half naked down and him lying beside me also naked. Then they washed me up. Then the police came and i was told he wanted to jump down.

The case were reported to the police, but later on during the police taken my statement down they said Jack mentioned that i seduced him when i was drunk when i clear fact i did not i was unconscious to do anything.
In the end the case was thrown as they said he was mentally unstabled as he wanted to jump down. But now after 3 years he can live a proper life but me? i'm still living a life that no one could understand the dirtiness i feel about myself, the incident changed me into a very quiet person. Jack is now married to another lady where he made he love her and they accidentally got pregnant.

That incident took place when i was 15 years old and Jack was 16.
I decided to share this story because i do not want other girls to fall into the same thing that i did.

Those that know the story always said that i deserve it as i went to his placed, but i really thought he was a nice guy as i just new him a month or two before the incident happen. I was young, naïve and really silly.

After the incident i still look back and the incident and feel so dirty about myself. I have became a quiet person, for 1 year after the incident happened, i couldn't go to school with a smile on my face, going to school was a drag for me. Those who knew about that matter as they were Jack's friends they laughed at me and called me names, like slut, ***** and other awful names. It affected me so much.
But i managed to be stronger but however when i hear about those drunk rape cases i always understand the pain they felt. Justice should be served.

[JLarissaDragon]

Thank you for sharing. My experience was so similar to yours. I was only 14 when my brother who was in his early 20's took me to a party at his friend house. His two friends got me drunk and raped me in what was sort of an orgy held by his frat house. I kind of remember it but could not tell anyone, because he said that his friends would get in trouble and he would never speak to me again. Besides he convinced me it was my own fault for a time, I kept it inside and actually acted out by becoming very promiscuous in high school
The scars I carried for a long time after that. No child (you are still a child at 15 ever deserves that) You simply do not have the maturity and judgment to know how to respond or take care of yourself at that age even if you could. For that matter, no woman should ever have to tolerate rape. Your body is your own and who you let into it is your decision, and yours alone.

I am so sorry this happened to you. I know it hurts and continues to hurt for a long, long time. I thank God I found help, as I have begun to recover my spirituality and faith, I pray you will to find the healing you need and deserve. Never let anyone tell you it was your fault or that you deserved it. You are a precious woman and human being and you deserve to be treasured and respected

Hugs -- LARISSA

[CaptainChaos79]

I was 20 when a man tried to take advantage of me when I was fkd up 10 ways from Sunday. I passed a buddy's couch and he was asleep in his own bedroom. This guy came back the house and was undressing me when woke up. So I started pitching fit amd screaming bloody murder. My buddy wakes up and comes in the room and at this I was not certain if I was saved or royally screwed...literally. He saved my *** and I learned a lesson I never forgot. I never told anyone else who did and neither did my friend because it would have divided loyalties and screwed up long time friendships between people who were not even involved so I chose to let it be. Eventually I found that the only way to find peace is through forgiveness. Your anger and shame and guilt are NOT hurting him... only you. Put a period and move on for YOUR sake because these bastards are not worth your life.

[GirlOfManyFaces]

<3 thank you for sharing. Unfortunately I have a similar story and can understand your pains. I hope that your name 3 years are better than your last 3. (((Hugs)))

[losinghope]

You did NOT do anything to deserve this. Those who think you did are, well, I don't think I can post that here.....

It was NOT NOT NOT your fault!!!

[Grey Matter]

No, no no, no one here will tell you that you deserved this! Drunk, sober, NO ONE, NO ONE deserves to go through what you went through. Ever. Rape culture will tell you that you should be ashamed. What is shameful is that people can't stop themselves raping someone who isn't sober. That's disgusting.

My ex girlfriend manipulated me at a really questionable time for me mentally. I was extremely vulnerable, unwell, etc. She manipulated me into smoking weed (and I mean a lot of it) telling me she will leave me, harm herself, etc if I didn't.

So I did.

Three hours later I woke up with my clothes off, horrified (I am asexual, I don't enjoy sex, I don't ever want sex) and she told me she did it to "calm me down".

I was so stoned I just stared at a wall for hours and hours waiting to take a train home.

I struggled for 3 years wondering if this was my fault. People said it was, in their passive aggressive ways "maybe you should have been sober" "this wouldn't have happened if you didn't get high" etc

This wouldn't have happened if we taught people not to rape instead of how not to get raped.

I am so sorry this happened to you. You are a warrior for being here.

[Harley47]

I've already been beaten to the punch to what I wanted to say by many here already, but I wanted to reemphasize something.

I don't care what some others would say (well, I do actually...such ignorance tends to piss me off, frankly)...this is absolutely, 110% not your fault. You did absolutely nothing wrong...even if you had willingly drank, being drunk is not some sort of invitation to violations of basic human dignity. You, nor anyone else, did anything do "deserve" something like this. No one "deserves" what you went through. No one. I am not intimately familiar with "rape culture," as that's a new word for me, but if anyone is so stupid to suggest that what you or anyone else went through is in any way your fault, I would submit to you that their opinion isn't worth your time. Such a thing is never, ever a matter of "were you drunk" or "what you were wearing." That's like blaming the victim of a carjacking by saying "well if you didn't have a Porsche." It's stupid.

Don't ever let such stupidity get to you. You did nothing wrong. You've showed a great deal of strength in sharing your story with others to maybe prevent it from happening to them. That speaks to courage, not to a failing. You are in no way "dirty" or anything like that as a result of this. You survived one of the most vile things a human being can inflict upon another. That does not reflect anything negative upon you. Rather, the fact you're here says a lot about your strength of character.

Please know you have my respect for sharing, and that if I can do anything for you (or anyone else here, for that matter), feel 100% free to PM me.

Many hugs, and thank you,
Harley

[Coldhardtruth]

Originally Posted by Harley47

I've already been beaten to the punch to what I wanted to say by many here already, but I wanted to reemphasize something.

I don't care what some others would say (well, I do actually...such ignorance tends to piss me off, frankly)...this is absolutely, 110% not your fault. You did absolutely nothing wrong...even if you had willingly drank, being drunk is not some sort of invitation to violations of basic human dignity. You, nor anyone else, did anything do "deserve" something like this. No one "deserves" what you went through. No one. I am not intimately familiar with "rape culture," as that's a new word for me, but if anyone is so stupid to suggest that what you or anyone else went through is in any way your fault, I would submit to you that their opinion isn't worth your time. Such a thing is never, ever a matter of "were you drunk" or "what you were wearing." That's like blaming the victim of a carjacking by saying "well if you didn't have a Porsche." It's stupid.

Don't ever let such stupidity get to you. You did nothing wrong. You've showed a great deal of strength in sharing your story with others to maybe prevent it from happening to them. That speaks to courage, not to a failing. You are in no way "dirty" or anything like that as a result of this. You survived one of the most vile things a human being can inflict upon another. That does not reflect anything negative upon you. Rather, the fact you're here says a lot about your strength of character.

Please know you have my respect for sharing, and that if I can do anything for you (or anyone else here, for that matter), feel 100% free to PM me.

Many hugs, and thank you,
Harley

Hey, thankyou so much. Really appreciate it.

[Coldhardtruth]

Originally Posted by JLarissaDragon

Thank you for sharing. My experience was so similar to yours. I was only 14 when my brother who was in his early 20's took me to a party at his friend house. His two friends got me drunk and raped me in what was sort of an orgy held by his frat house. I kind of remember it but could not tell anyone, because he said that his friends would get in trouble and he would never speak to me again. Besides he convinced me it was my own fault for a time, I kept it inside and actually acted out by becoming very promiscuous in high school
The scars I carried for a long time after that. No child (you are still a child at 15 ever deserves that) You simply do not have the maturity and judgment to know how to respond or take care of yourself at that age even if you could. For that matter, no woman should ever have to tolerate rape. Your body is your own and who you let into it is your decision, and yours alone.

I am so sorry this happened to you. I know it hurts and continues to hurt for a long, long time. I thank God I found help, as I have begun to recover my spirituality and faith, I pray you will to find the healing you need and deserve. Never let anyone tell you it was your fault or that you deserved it. You are a precious woman and human being and you deserve to be treasured and respected

Hugs -- LARISSA

Hey, im glad that things improved for you.Thankyou so much for your support.