[Koko2]

They have labeled me as mentally "special" and my dad, who's a professional, wrote a 20 page laundry list dissertation on my supposed mental handicap. On the other hand, they have taken all measures so I don't receive any inheritance, house, money or otherwise, though I'm the only child who lives nearby and assists with their daily routine and yard work. When the parent's house gets sold, another sibling from out of state will come and sell it and a large inheritance was recently received by the parent and tranferred into a wealthy sibling's bank account. If I get in an argument about anything, they'll say it's because people with my alleged mental handicap get in arguments.

Everyone else in the family is showered with accolades. When I got a second wind doing something from my childhood, my siblings prodded their children into it as a career path, making me look joe high school. They video taped me but allowed their child to join in, then edited the video to a brief snippet of their precocious child with me in the background. My dad urged me to do something tangentially related but rather pedestrian implying I didn't have the requisite skill though I was the top student in a college class.

I was the first sibling to move to another state when I was younger but returned due to problems, and some of them later moved there and send me postcards to gloat. They spent money to fix a physical deformity for my sibling, but never offered to pay for my deformity. My siblings constantly ridiculed other people with deformity similar to mine for a period of about ten years until I moved away. When I moved away, I let my freak flag fly, so my siblings changed their mantra from being the most normal to being the most weird. They used to make fun of anyone who wasn't "normal", but now they showboat being weird and I'm the pedestrian one.

The underlying message is "there's nothing special about you ... except your special handicap". I've been replaced and rendered persona non grata. Whenever my dad takes me to a local restaurant, he always mentions how my younger sibling likes it as if I needed their seal of approval. If I say that I like a particular thing, my siblings will say that a younger sibling likes it, as though they're trying to make me feel like I'm wearing their hand-me-downs.

When I make a comment about anyone, they'll pass whatever I said along to the grieved party even though they'll say things of their own that I keep confidential. I'm also the designated old maid, being the only one without spouse and children. Whenever I get a new gray hair, a skin blemish, or show any aging, they'll literally point it out to me. They sent me their spouse's "fat pants", which were too big for me, when I gained some weight. They pride themselves on being overachievers. They do all this, but always act really friendly like they bear no animosity.

When we had a family reunion, I stayed at the planned destination, but some of my siblings stayed in another nearby town and the others would "go to the store to get a few things" and stay the whole day in the other town. I walked around the camping grounds alone looking for them, and thought I heard their voices in a tent. When I peeked inside, I didn't see anyone there. Later a parent mentioned that one of them thought they'd seen me, but the voices got quiet when I was searching like they were hiding in there. No one jumped out said "hey, we're here".

[Lexi232]

you sound VERY smart!
They all sound very immature and very bored. Im sorry they have been treating you like this. It isnt right. Perhaps its time to spread your wings and show them just how special you truely are. a sparkling gem!
I dont know what your handicap is, but perhaps theres social groups or other recreational type of things designated for people with that "handicap"? I have a hard time living around those who start drama by instigating it from an individual. My family does a lot of that. even where i live currently, they are just plain mean and they sting. its a bit harder to find a way away from the family, but for me personally, it made life a lot more calmer, and enjoyable, when i was able to not be held within a toxic dysfunctional family... i also started feeling better emotionally.
Please know that youre very smart, and caring, and you are not their property. you have value!

[Koko2]

Any mental problems I think arise from environmental factors such as a physical deformity rather than the supposed mental handicap which is with someone from birth. It was actually caused or accentuated by a medical procedure during my youth that was done mainly to pad a doctor's bank account. As far as their comments about my aging, they behave like they found the fountain of youth and constantly post vain photos on Facebook of their fun-filled lives. They'll sometimes compliment me on a particular photo from over 20 years ago (always the same photo), and make comments like "we all look different now, especially Koko". I suppose I have thick enough skin to live with that noise, but now they're arranging it so I don't receive any inheritance except by asking a sibling for the money.

[sherbet]

That sounds infuriating. It also sounds like you do a pretty good job not reacting to all their nonsense, which is amazing. The whole dynamic sounds toxic and the best thing to do is not to give them the reaction they want. I don't know what else to say but this is crazy-making behavior…it would make anyone upset.

[mimsies]

Don't suppose you's want to just cut the whole lot of them off? Move away from your location close ti the parents, and live your own life away from all their crap? I mean if they aren't going to leave anything to you anyway...

I agree with Lexi. You seem HIGHLY intelligent, observant, and kind. They are all just full of... moldy cheese...

Glad you posted. I like you!