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Old Mar 25, 2015, 03:42 PM
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... if he was always an asshole. If he was always mean and angry and violent. It would be easier if I didn't see him as a broken human being. It would be easier if I could hate him completely.

... if I didn't feel it in my body. If I could just say it was an overactive imagination. If I could say I was making up stories and believe it was all just a bad dream.

... if it never happened. If there was nothing to remember.

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Old Mar 25, 2015, 05:21 PM
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Old Mar 25, 2015, 05:45 PM
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Hi ThisWayOut,

... if he was always an asshole. If he was always mean and angry and violent. It would be easier if I didn't see him as a broken human being. It would be easier if I could hate him completely.

You know if you're seeing a fraction of understanding (???) towards him/what he did with "a broken human being" that can still allow for you hating what he did. Because it was wrong, undeniably wrong.
You don't need to feel that you need to/should actually excuse his actions to a point/hate them any the less because you find it hard to hate him completely.
Let's face it, you have a right to be hurt by what he did, every right!!! But you also have a right to complete support with that too, and a right towards healing

... if I didn't feel it in my body. If I could just say it was an overactive imagination. If I could say I was making up stories and believe it was all just a bad dream.

... if it never happened. If there was nothing to remember.


You know I'd SO wish that for you too
And I am SO sorry it happened to you. I guess all I can say is as it did happen, we can just try to be here for you

Alison
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Old Mar 25, 2015, 06:05 PM
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Old Mar 25, 2015, 06:15 PM
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Old Mar 31, 2015, 11:59 PM
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Old Apr 02, 2015, 07:56 PM
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I definitely understant. I am sorry its so hard.
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Old Apr 03, 2015, 04:31 AM
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oh my goodness, this.

it would have been so much easier if he was horrible or said he hated me or even just hit me. i totally get it. it can be so hard to hate abusers when they have the ability to 'act' so nice or make us feel sorry for them.

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Old Apr 03, 2015, 09:55 AM
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I totally understand how hard it is. I still cant hate them. I feel like i messed up their lives. Some good people turned bad only because i was born. Because i am a girl & i have a body. Its all my fault... May be am creating such situations. But i dont know how
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Old Apr 03, 2015, 01:31 PM
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NO ONE has that kind of power....to make anyone turn good or bad. Our behavior is a choice.
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