[StarryNight5]

Possible trigger:

There has been some latent developments in my life and I would like to talk about them, but at a latter date. My question and concern is that what I went through, is considered abuse? My father would spank me to "put the fear of god" in me, push me around and up against walls, hit me on the back of the head and use ever profane word he could muster. My mother and older brother went through far worse, those I'm sure were cases of abuse. Although I've long considered what happened to me to be indeed abuse, I still have significant doubt if it was or was something I've built up in my head over the years. All I ask is some advice and an evaluation of sorts to help put things into context. Thanks.

Sorry if my grammar is atrocious, it's never been a strong suite of mine. That and articulating fluently.

[Kalnus]

Yes, that sounds like abuse to me. While most would consider spanking to be an acceptable form of punishment, shoving you against a wall and hitting you in the back of the head are not. With the constant cursing he put you through, I would consider verbal abuse to have occurred as well. One of an abuser strongest weapons if the ability to make the victim feel like it wasn't abuse and that they deserved it for some reason. You have recognized it happening to other members of your family so don't sell yourself short by doubting whether it happened to you or not. I am sorry you went through this with someone who is supposed to love and protect you. Take your time and you'll get things sorted out.

yes that is abuse.

[mrmag]

Thank you for posting this it has awoken memory's that i did not know i had and I now know what that void in my life was and i can finally start to learn how to get past or.. cope with it and live on with my life... thanks, I wish you the best with dealing this situation, we are all willing to help if need be.

[BLUEDOVE]

You bet your life its abuse! If going through tough
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Deepest Respect,
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