[Liz1965]

I was sexually abuse by my dad when I was young and till this day my mom is verbally abusive to me, she never believed that it happen. I am 50 years old and the abuse never stopped. I try to talk to her but she will not listen to my feelings. I love her,but not the way she treats me, words do hurt. I was wondering if anyone deals with this. My therapist tells me to stay away from her when she gets likes that, but I never know when it will happen, it could be in a store or grocery store, I am never emotionally ready for it to to happen. I know it hurts alot and my illnesses does get worse from it. She will never accept my illnesses either. Just doing the best I can. thanks. My self-esteem also has suffer as well cause it has happen so much for so long.

[Open Eyes]

Your father was an abuser and your mother is his codependent, who lives in denial and will choose to lash out at anyone who wants her to see "the truth" and face the wrongs that have taken place. Neither of your parents are interested in taking responsiblity for their wrongs and any time you need them to they are going to be angry with you because they genuinely do not know "how" to be responsible for their wrongs.

So basically you grew up to learn how to be a victim/codependent and you need to learn to no longer accept that role because it isn't healthy for you.

Many children wait in hopes of having a parent finally validate them and admit their wrongs and often they never get that, may even just face continued abuse and denial as their parent never learns how to "respect" their children.

[Liz1965]

Thanks so much for that statement. It made me see what I need to do for myself and what I need to change in myself. Which there was a book that I could read to help me. again thanks. have a great day.