[dissociative]

I need to act out being a child. I’m doing it anyway all the time; only, I'm 40 and that doesn't go down well with people People told me in the past I was acting childish, and they didn't accept it at all. I don’t have a room to do just that, and I’m quite disappointed when friends don’t allow me to do that. One of my friends I lost recently told me I was massively annoying.

It is obviously damaging my social life.

I need a safe place to do that, with a helpful person by my side. It got worse recently, and I’m afraid it’s not safe for me at all.

Is that something a therapist could address? :/

How do you deal with it, if you have similar issues?

[eskielover]

I married a guy who acted totally childish all the years we were married....even bragged that he was a "toy r us kid"......well, when I needed him to be responsible as my marriage partner....he couldn't....he was incapable of being a responsible H.....I finally left...I had enough.

If this is how you are wanting to act all the time....then I would say you do need serious help from a T. People don't like being around people at that age who are acting childish because it's also acting irresponsible with those actions also & by that age, it just doesn't go over well while everyone else around is maturing....they want to be around mature people also.

It wasn't that I didn't enjoy my fun....I loved to play racquetball at lunch every day from work...loved to enjoy ski vacations & dance.....just because we act like adults doesn't mean we don't have fun, but we still react to things in a mature way & that's what people that age want to be around.

You haven't specified what childish actions you are referring to here. The thing was after I left, I did some research after talking with a T who suggested my H might have Asperger's....& sure enough...with a lot of research.....that described perfectly all the years that I lived with him & I know that there were many times that I felt like I was his mother rather than his wife & it got OLD really quickly & the marriage turned into a war zone rather than the partnership a marriage is meant to be.

[dissociative]

I did suspect I had Asperger's years ago, but never followed up on that. Anyway, would that diagnosis be helpful at all? What I'm trying to do, I think, is getting rid of childhood traumas, not annoying people on purpose.

It's difficult to specify the actions. It's more about emotions than actions. It's been getting ridiculous recently, or at least I think I can't hide it well and dont like it, because showing this doesn't feel safe at all. I mean, showing that I actually feel like a child. Just one example: I was out recently with some people, there were kids around, and someone made a remark "those kids seem very happy even in this rainy weather", and my reply was "well I'm not happy, I'm freezing". That was probably out of place, wasn't it? I felt like I was exposing myself too much. That's why I often choose not to say anything at all, or avoid company, which makes me completely unhappy.

[Monkeyvamp2410]

Although I haven't experienced this type of behaviour. If you have been told you could have aspergers, maybe going a head with some further testing as there will be loads of help out there for you if aspergers is diagnosed.

I'm unsure how you mean by acting as a child. Do you mean a fetish type thing where you literally like to act out being a child? Or do you mean you just have childish ways about you (maybe more prominently than an adult usually acts)? I think if it's the latter maybe you could try and tone it down a bit. Be responsible when you have to but be as childish as you like at home? I sometimes feel like a kid as I love watching animated films and playing games still but I'm still a mature, responsible adult too.

I think a trip to the doctors is the best thing to start off with as it may be, some therapy could work to get to the bottom of why your behaviour is manifesting like this.

Hope you're ok anyway. Take care of yourself.xx

[dissociative]

Originally Posted by Monkeyvamp2410

I'm unsure how you mean by acting as a child. Do you mean a fetish type thing where you literally like to act out being a child? Or do you mean you just have childish ways about you (maybe more prominently than an adult usually acts)? I think if it's the latter maybe you could try and tone it down a bit. Be responsible when you have to but be as childish as you like at home? I sometimes feel like a kid as I love watching animated films and playing games still but I'm still a mature, responsible adult too.

Hope you're ok anyway. Take care of yourself.xx

No, I dont have any fetishes, and I was never actually told I had Asperger's. This is my attempt at self-diagnosis before I have the chance to start a therapy. Which should happen soon. It is difficult for me to explain what I meant; it's like I sometimes regress to some childish behaviour, and cannot really control it at all, it is controlling me. Might be actually a personality split? I'm reading about it, and most of what I'm reading sounds like me. But I do need a specialist to confirm it.
Thanks, I'm not doing very well, but I'm not hopeless either. Actually, I'm going on a well-deserved vacation this week, and hope it will be relaxing enough, if at all possible. xxx