[Mynameisbipolar]

I am new here. I haven't done an introduction yet because I needed help first. Support. I don't know.

I feel like I am locked in a cage. My fiance is laying next to me and everytime he moves - I get nervous.

He is emotionally and verbally abusive. He gets in my face and talks very slowly telling me he has to for me to understand. He calls me names: *****, ****, psycho, crazy, retard, stupid. He tells me I am slow and pathetic. I tried, tonight, to tell hiim that he makes me feel alone. He always says what he needs to say and walks away. Everytime we bicker he walks away. I wrote on paper how he makes me feel worthless and 2 minutes into our conversation after , he made fun of me for being pathetic and dramatic to write a note. He threw it in my face immediately. I was afraid to even give him the note and now that he thinks I'm pathetic - I feel like a scared idiot trapped.

I'll write more tomorrow. I want to pretend I'm sleeping; I'm so sick to my stomach.

[Parva]

You're not crazy, a retard, or pathetic. You might be scared, but you're not an idiot. Far be it from me to give you advice, given the truck load of my own crap, but I can give you support. A lot of other people will have good suggestions. Hang in there and don't forget it's never totally hopeless.

[cluelessgal]

Hi MynameisBipolar,

I am so sorry that you are in this situation . No one deserves to be called psycho, crazy, retard, stupid or anything that can hurt you. Emotional abuse is the worst kind of abuse as it completely robs you of your self-worth.

Abusers often project image of themselves on to others and belittle them to make themselves feel good.

The good thing here is that he's your fiance and not your husband. Relationships should make you stronger and better, not miserable and worthless.

Which brings me to the question - Why are you in a relationship with him when he makes you feel so miserable??

[Quarter life]

My advice to you would be to leave him while you still have the strength to leave, before he robs you of all your self worth and self esteem. His emotional abuse of you will not change...if anything it will get worse. The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior.