[Lemonpledge]

I was curious when a person decides to tell their T they were either raped, molested or even both. Whatever the case may be. Should they go into details?
Or not even go there?
I told on my father when I was in the 9th grade, I didn't tell about his 2 friends though. My father was arrested and went to jail for 7 years with 10 years of probation. I saw a T but never said anything really about the abuse, he knew about it but I was 14 I didn't like talking about my privates and still don't.
I also never told my old T about my fathers 2 friends who actually did more than my father did.
I have a doctor and he asked all those questions when I first started seeing him. If I'd ever been abused sexually/physically. My biggest mistake was saying yes. After 3 months of seeing him he not only took advantage that I have major depression and anxiety and I was also sick and weak and could not fight back.
I have told my new friend, but didn't go into details with him. I haven't said anything to my T. I was going to but it wouldn't come out. I was going to tell him Monday but he canceled my appointment and I won't see him until the 25 of this month. So it will be a full month since I have talked with him. I was really mentally ready to tell him and now I don't know. All I got out last time was my doctor did something and I don't even reAlly know how we got talking about it, I don't remember. But anyways I mentioned a head injury in another post and that head injury was from the doctor and has opened a whole slew of problems for me.
I don't want to tell my T too much, but I do want to tell him. My doctor was pretty violent and lots of blood was involved.
Sorry this is long for a simple question. So details or not? Thanks

[vonmoxie]

Here's an idea: if you have questions about how he would react, perhaps you could ask him hypothetically, if he has other patients who have experienced sexual abuse, what kind of reception he gives that information, does he have any preconceived notions about it, or just what his general thoughts are about people who have gone through that.. I think whatever he might say in response would be revealing and helpful to you. You could even plan ahead of time, if it's helpful to you, to definitely give yourself time to think on what he's said, i.e. by planning not to reveal anything in the same session as when you ask hypothetically, which I'm sure he would understand; just save it for a next meeting if you prefer. I think this could potentially create an environment for talking about it that is gentler for you, should you end up deciding to share it with him.

[Lemonpledge]

When I was trying to tell my T he said, if it's something that needs reporting for what he did.
I kind of feel he knows what I wanted to say. I felt so stupid I couldn't even look my T in the eyes and tell him. I wasted a lot of my session just sitting there trying to get it out and occasionally glancing at him. I do want to tell him just don't know if when one does decide to tell, do they just say so so assaulted me and that's it, or so so assaulted me and did this and that and this???? I think holding in what my doctor did to me is eating me up inside. And is causing anxiety. The actual psychiatrist I see( I see a therapist and Psychiatrist) she gives me medicine. I told her something was eating at me I couldn't sleep, think right. Increase in anxiety she gave me 2 new medicines.

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[vonmoxie]

If it's a question of concern with regard to reporting being mandated for your therapist, perhaps you could work something out ahead of time where if something does have to be reported, it can at least be done at a juncture that is both within the statute of limitations, and also not as retraumatizing for you.. I don't know how likely it is that you could get a real agreement for that though, if there are issues of legality.

There's a good page at rainn.org which details the legal specifics per state, as far as mandated reporting goes. Maybe it would put your mind at ease to better understand exactly what would be involved, if you're not already:

https://rainn.org/public-policy/laws-in-your-state

(Sorry if I misunderstood before!)

[Lemonpledge]

I actually wanted to know both. I don't think he actually has to report the assault. I saw where a therapist doesn't have to report a crime. I mean unless it's a minor.
This happened 3 months ago. I wasn't sure if he might have to because of it being a doctor. But I guess I don't have to give a name. The doctor threatened me if I told so not really wanting to go there.


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[ThisWayOut]

I'm sorry you went through that.
As for telling details, that's totally up to you. If you are comfortable disclosing details, that's fine. If not, that's fine too. when I first told a therapist, I gave a few details, but then got uncomfortable with the concept so I stopped talking about it. T's will generally let you take it at your own pace.

[precaryous]

I'm sorry that happened to you, too.
When I first started to tell PrevT about what happened to me, I asked a lot of questions. I also withheld the Pdoc abuser's name.

I found out in California PrevT was not ethically or legally allowed to report him.

My PM's are open if you want to talk about it.