[soul_alone]

Okay, so I'm new to this website. I found out from google about it and thus i signed up to get help. So this is the first time im gonna say something personal. This place feels like a safe haven to me. I am 14 years of age. I have been self harming since 2014 due to life issues. Laat night i went quite deep. It hurt but it was worth it. And for my personal info(lol) i have parents who i am grateful & appreciative of. i have 4 sisters, i am the third one and the most stupidest one.
Now let me cut to the chase, Okay so i think I'm being molested(not sure, or abused) by younger sister. She is 8 years of age. I am 14 years old and we have a 6 year gap. We share rooms....though we sleep on separate beds. But sometimes she cries & asks me to lie down with her and so i do but i fall asleep myself. She starts putting her fingers on my back...then slowly (idk how to type im crying) she slides her fingers into my pyjamas and does the weirdest **** and i scold her. She does this a lot.
And sadly, shes been doing this for a years & still is. She always grabs my boobs at times.(im crying im so weak) She slaps or touches my butt when im standing or walking or anything. She basically touches my private parts. I get quite hurt and i end up crying plus i am having other issues since years, depression, bdd, gad, self harm. So answer my question. Am i being molested or what? Should i tell anyone?

[hashiBP2?]

In my opinion, it's not ok what your sister is doing to you and you should talk to your parents about it.

[Argonautomobile]

I agree you should talk to your parents. I don't think this is appropriate behavior. I'm sorry this is happening to you.

[Crazy Hitch]

Your whole situation sucks and I feel sorry for you!

Firstly, I would like to suggest that you stay out of her bed. It's so wrong what she is doing and I'm sorry that she does this to you.

Secondly, the self harming worries me. I hope for your sake you are able to speak to your parents about the self harm. Or at very least ask them if you could see a therapist ... ?

I hope this situation stops and stops very soon!

I found this alleged legal definition of child molestation.

Feel free to read it if you wish.

Possible trigger:

Child molestation is a crime involving a range of indecent or sexual activities between an adult and a child, usually under the age of 14. In psychiatric terms, these acts are sometimes known as pedophilia. It is important, however, to keep in mind that child molestation and child Sexual Abuse refer to specific, legally defined actions. They do not necessarily imply that the perpetrator bears a particular psychological makeup or motive. For example, not all incidents of child molestation are perpetrated by pedophiles; sometimes the perpetrator has other motives for his or her actions and does not manifest an ongoing pattern of sexual attraction to children. Thus, not all child molestation is perpetrated by pedophiles, and not all pedophiles actually commit child molestation.

[Xlosersclub]

This must be a major issue and very confusing as a 14 year old.
I'm going to give you an honest opinion (aside from telling your parents)...
In cases like this, it is not uncommon that the child carrying out these behaviors has likely been a victim of sexual abuse so she may see this behavior as "normal,"... ESPECIALLY when the abuse is from a family member (even more likely both parents know have been informed and have ignored the issue). Many child abusers will often molest one child and not another in the family. Even if you were not abused yourself, your sister may have been. Also, you're cutting and started at age 12. You yourself may have surpassed memories (selective amnesia) yourself. It could also be a peer influence, or possibly being molested by a classmate? In any case, if your parents ignore the issue, call child services or go to her teacher. She needs help. Xoxo best wishes and hope I could be of help

[BipolarFromStart]

You definitely need to talk to someone about this. I would tell your parents immediately. I'm sorry you are going through this and at such a young age too.

[doogie]

Please talk to your parents or a trusted adult in your real life. Your sister should not be acting out like that. Obviously, it's disturbing to you and I'm concerned about your sister as well. I have concerns about the reasons she may be acting out in those ways. Please reach out for help. It will be scary to talk about it, but keep reaching out. If the first person you tell doesn't believe you or doesn't think it's a big deal - keep telling trusted people until someone takes you seriously. You are worth someone taking care of you and helping you (and your sister) with this situation. Best of luck to you.

[Fizzyo]

Originally Posted by Xlosersclub

This must be a major issue and very confusing as a 14 year old.
I'm going to give you an honest opinion (aside from telling your parents)...
In cases like this, it is not uncommon that the child carrying out these behaviors has likely been a victim of sexual abuse so she may see this behavior as "normal,"... ESPECIALLY when the abuse is from a family member (even more likely both parents know have been informed and have ignored the issue). Many child abusers will often molest one child and not another in the family. Even if you were not abused yourself, your sister may have been. Also, you're cutting and started at age 12. You yourself may have surpassed memories (selective amnesia) yourself. It could also be a peer influence, or possibly being molested by a classmate? In any case, if your parents ignore the issue, call child services or go to her teacher. She needs help. Xoxo best wishes and hope I could be of help

My thoughts too, can you talk to a counsellor or teacher at school? They may be able to support you and will know who to contact about your sister's problems if your parents don't respond to your concerns.

Best wishes and good luck.