[fijiisland]

I was moving clothes from the washer to the dryer and he purposely came into the laundry room to start at me. I accidentally dropped a sock on the floor (probably because he got me so flustered) and he says, "you dropped something". I didn't say anything to him. Never do because everything he says is negative or belittling. And if I do say something to him he yells, WHAT??? and he says it mean.

Then he got mad and said "I just told you you dropped something, and you don't acknowledge me!!!?? Then he left room and 2 seconds later, came back in to yell at me some more. He started with the "when are you moving out??" because we're selling this place"

I just ignored him again. I will just get yelled at no matter what I say. I also ignore him for my own benefit. I can't take the stress of being near him. I usually wait to go in laundry room when he is sleeping just so I don't have to deal with this!!

I know I do need to move out. but being around him make me less likely to move out since I am constantly looking at boringness, mean faces, negativity, can't do anything right, etc.

It took me until 45 years old to realize I have been a victim of my parents abuse for years. I always thought I deserved it. BECAUSE I live with them, and I am a loser and have no money, I MUST DESERVE to be yelled at by them. He also punched me in the face last year.

[Skeezyks]

Hello fijiisland: Yes, old people can be really difficult to live with. (I know because I am one!) It would be nice to think that we mellow out as we age. And perhaps some do. But in many cases I think whatever personality problems or shortcomings we had when we were younger just become even worse as we age. Plus there's always the potential for such things as senior dementia or Alzheimer's Disease to be setting in. It would probably be best if you could figure out some way to move.

[fijiisland]

Thanks Skeezyks!

However, this has been going on my whole life with them!!! I am treated like I am 12. My kids are treated more of an adult than I am! I am also yelled at in front of kids. And guess what? My kids treat me bad now also!

[nicoleflynn]

The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans saved my life. When you respond totheir abuse/insanity, you validate them;you can train yourself to NOt respond.

[PumpkinPieHead]

Many hugs and blessings to you, love.

[Grad0507]

I preferred The Agreement. It made my father slow down so it wasn't every day, but he still calls me the N word even though I'm Asian.

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[nicoleflynn]

You cannot reason with an abuser; all you can do is stay away from them as much as possible; they are acting out their anger which has NOTHING to do with you and EVERYTHING to do with who they are and how they feel about themselves; most abusers hate themselves.

[ManOfConstantSorrow]

Is there anyway you can get power of attorney and send him away to an old peoples' home? Just kidding. But I think you have summed it up: I am constantly looking at boringness, mean faces, negativity, can't do anything right, - the environment has sucked the self-confidence out of you. The fact that you can post here shows you have awareness and with awareness can come action, but you need help. I wonder what is available in your region?