[leomama]

Hi everyone, after dealing with so many problematic people I feel like , well, there are people who do things I would never do.

I'm trying to rebuild my life and right now I'm waiting to get through a mediation before I take my next step.

In addition I realize I'm the one who's changed . I don't know if this makes any sense.

I'm being vague because I feel like treating others how I want to be treated isn't working .

Either those people don't believe in treating others the way they themselves want to be treated, or the way they want to be treated is different from how you want to be treated..

I'd say treat people well, in a loving manner, but if they're harmful, protect yourself.. Love yourself first, I guess

[leomama]

Yes someone told me be gentle with yourself.

I was kind of dealing with this in the partners forum, about dealing with a liar.

At this point in my life I'm real sensitive to those kind of compliments that are really a ploy for attention. I can tell the difference when somebody don't want nothing in return. That's what I'm attracted to, and that's rare.

I totally understand. I'm pretty good, too, at identifying when someone's saying or doing something in order to get something for themselves. That kind of behaviour puts me on the defensive, creates mistrust and makes me wonder why they don't just come out and say what they want.. You know, ask for it instead of trying to 'trick' me into giving it, perhaps before I even realise what's happening..

This is why I simply can't do flirting, for instance.. To me, it feels like a game, like you have to act to get someone to like you.. I'd much rather just get to know someone, and if I end up liking them, tell them, and hear how they feel about me. Then make an informed decision of whether or not I want to take the relationship further..

[leomama]

you are healthy!