[KellyH]

Hi, I'm new here so I hope this isn't too long. Today I told my therapist some details about my abuse. My abuser used to make me self harm when I got my period as a way of punishing me for getting it. I told her this and she was really nice about it, but I'm afraid that in her head she's doubting me. I have never found someone who has had a similar experience to talk with so I'm just worried that she's going to think I'm not being honest with her.

[CANDC]

hi KellyH. Welcome to Psych Central. I am sorry you have suffered abuse. No one should have to endure that. I am glad you have a therapist that supports you even in your deepest darkest times, they are there for you. Whatever you went through, they are on your side. They are there solely to help you through this darkness.

I have found with a new therapist, we have to reassure ourselves until we see that they feel just as good about us when they know the darkness we endured. A therapist's natural instinct is to develop that professional relationship where we are able to reveal your darkest moments as in a mirror and they just keep validating and supporting us the whole way.

Too many of us have endured conditional love that demanded we look the other way and not protest our abuse. The therapist makes no such demands on us. They are here unconditionally. I think you have this kind of therapist. Trust it and see, is all I can say.

These articles may be of interest to you
Psych Central - Newsletter #4: Trust and Disappointment in Psychotherapy

https://psychcentral.com/lib/the-hea...ood-therapist/

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[Big Mama]

I am so sorry you had to endure that. But I am glad you have a T (T = Therapist) that you can confide in. With time you will gain a trust with your T and she will also learn more about you. Fixing issues is a team effort. Just keep talking to the T and soon enough you will build a relationship and you will feel much more confident when you share.

Good luck. I hope your next appointment provides you with some reassurance.