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Jul 24, 2017 at 01:09 AM
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My husband hurt me again tonight after denying him access to my bank account. He doesn't work, I do, I pay the rent and bills but he is on the lease. I'm scared.. I don't know how to get him to leave and I'm scared that if I leave I'l be homeless with my children... I'm so lost and confused :'(
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Jul 24, 2017 at 01:19 AM
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hi, first i'm sorry you're going through this. i'm not familiar with how things work in Canada but are there any services you could access for help ... social services, women's refuge, maybe an appointment with a solicitor (here your first appointment is free so they can figure out how to help you, if you qualify for legal aid etc).
alternatively, do you have any family/friends you could temporarily stay with while you figure things out? sorry if this isn't much help, someone will have better advice i'm sure, hang in there. 
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Grand Magnate
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Jul 24, 2017 at 06:52 AM
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I don't know if Canada has a national domestic hotline, but if so, I would call them. He probably won't leave, so focus on leaving yourself. As the previous poster said.....can you go and stay with friends or family?
P.S. Go into www.hotpeachpages.net/canada..... There is a list of the provinces where you can get help. |
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Grand Magnate
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Jul 24, 2017 at 10:07 AM
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I'm so sorry you're going through this right now. I've been going through a crisis myself this week and I've called several crisis lines just to talk and cry more than once. I highly suggest calling one and speaking to them. I called both a generic crisis line and a DV one. They all listened with compassion and it helped calm me down in the moment.
 ETA: I also went in person to a DV center and spoke with someone about creating a safety plan. That's a really good idea also. Stay safe. |
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Jul 24, 2017 at 12:30 PM
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Jul 24, 2017 at 02:49 PM
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Hi all, thank you for the replies. This is something I have been dealing with such a long time now. I did leave him earlier this year, I stayed at a women's shelter and waited for help financially and a place to live. After 4 months I still had nowhere to go so I had to accept his plea that he would help me get into a home by signing a rental lease with him in agreement that he would attend counselling for abusive men, see a doctor about his mental health and get a job and help financially also.
Of course, he never did any of those things, and is now staying in the home because he 'has nowhere else to stay'. I don't want to leave again, I don't want to be homeless again or stay in a shelter. I have a job and finally have my life back on track.. he just is dragging me down  I'm going to try calling victim services again today to see if I can get an emergency protection order so that I can stay in our home and try and continue life as normally as possible for my 3 children.
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Jul 24, 2017 at 02:54 PM
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I have no advice to help but I am praying for you and your children and hope you can eventually break away from him.
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Jul 25, 2017 at 11:42 AM
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Hi Zedsdead
Great that you're planning that call and wanting better for yourself!!! As you know I'd say that you/anyone deserves better than that.......... So try to stand tough, hey??!! You can do this!!! And pull in all the support you can...........from victims services.......from any voluntary agencies or helplines...........you are so on the right track.........just keep on going.........just keep on pushing for better.........you deserve it Alison |
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