[Mogie]

So.....Abuser father died. Now I have my mother living with me...initially I thought that at last my mother and I would be able to spend her remaining years together and form a newer more positive relationship...what an idiot I was...

She criticizes me constantly and has thrown my father onto the pedestal of sainthood. I feel like such a fool...I should have seen the writing on the wall...but somehow wanted to believe things would be different once my father had died.

My anxiety and PTSD has spiked severely and I am feeling mentally drained...What have i done! I want to crawl into a hole. My T is all that keeps me together.

[Amyjay]

oh i feel for you. I fear this outcome for myself. My parents are getting older and want me to take on the legal responsibility for their affairs. i see myself ending up in this position with one of the other of my parents.
How can you look out for yourself? You are important.

[reb569]

Originally Posted by Mogie

So.....Abuser father died. Now I have my mother living with me...initially I thought that at last my mother and I would be able to spend her remaining years together and form a newer more positive relationship...what an idiot I was...

She criticizes me constantly and has thrown my father onto the pedestal of sainthood. I feel like such a fool...I should have seen the writing on the wall...but somehow wanted to believe things would be different once my father had died.

My anxiety and PTSD has spiked severely and I am feeling mentally drained...What have i done! I want to crawl into a hole. My T is all that keeps me together.

Maybe you can find her a home in a senior apartment complex or something? You don't need to allow her to abuse you. She might be mad at you and still be abusive, but at least you wouldn't have to see it daily.

[Bonjour Tristesse]

Originally Posted by reb569

Maybe you can find her a home in a senior apartment complex or something? You don't need to allow her to abuse you. She might be mad at you and still be abusive, but at least you wouldn't have to see it daily.

I second this. One thing is for you not to hold a grouch and help her with what you can. Another having her continue the cycle of abuse and interfere with you having a stable and happy life. You already tried this time around and saw how it turned out. Help her find a place of her own and visit and help her, but for your well-being do not continue to live with her.

We all want to believe that our unhealthy families will turn around and now that we are better, we are going to be able to handle it and things will be allright and we'll finally get the support from them we have always wanted. Unfortunately while we have worked on ourselves to try to get healthier they have not.

[HD7970GHZ]

((Mogie)) I send hugs to you Mogie.

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