[8Loop]

I have finally put things in place to cut all ties with a "best" friend who was emotionally abusive to me for over a decade. I blocked their phone number, had to get an app that blocks their voicemails, blocked them on social media, and I got a new email. I am no longer feeding their ego and drama!

I am so glad that I am finally at this point of being DONE, and want to shout it from the rooftops. However, I also don't want to talk about it with friends and family anymore since that would continue their negative presence in my life. As I begin to understand the consequences of this abusive relationship, I would like to process it as privately as possible IRL. That being said I was wondering if anyone has any good resources to help me process this? Doing my research they have all classic signs of narcissism, and sociopathy - but clinically they are diagnosed with BPD.

[TrailRunner14]

My heart is happy to read that you discovered your courage to make this decision and stand behind it.

You are strong and brave!

If it was me, I would keep it to myself.

I would go for walks and do other things that make me happy.

I’m working though a kind of similar family issue. It’s something that people want to know about but I don’t want to tell other people’s private issues.

For me, I’m just handling it as a need to know kind of thing.

That sounds sketchy but I just don’t offer info if it’s not needed. If it is needed, I say what is needed and that is all.

That’s me.

[8Loop]

Thank you for the support and response.
I agree with your advice to keep the details to myself. It can be a bit hard not to talk about such a thing when I know they have been using every piece of knowledge they have of me to build a case against what a terrible person I am. But, that doesn't mean I have the right to share any of their personal business. There is a power in silence.
I wish you peace and strength with your similar issue.