[Rive1976]

When i was 14 i had a kind of relationship with my aunts husband brother. He was in his 30s. Anyway he never molested me although people suspected he was because he used to hug me alot the kinda hug that hurt and i told him he was hurting me. Not like a bear hug but a sexual hug if that makes sense. We also used to cuddle. I never really thought much of it until now and now im 41. Am i being stupid? I really liked him and now that i look back on it. I was being flirtatious. I wasnt tryimg to be though i was never planning to have sex i was only 14 and wasnt willing to lose my virginity to anyone. Exspecially in a in law or older man.

[SittingDuck]

Hey Dnester,

I think that we forget just how capable teenagers are of having intimate feelings so those feelings were very real to you then. And it's all you may have known of intimacy then. At the time, you made a choice not to further the relationship. Do you now feel uncomfortable looking at the situation from an older adults point of view? Maybe these are things you need to sort out. I know that I sometimes think about past experiences and feel shame or guilt, Not implying that you should, that is your judgement, Not mine! If you're looking for someone's opinion on the situation, I think that IF the situation had gone farther, this man could have gotten into trouble, he could have been taking advantage of you and your innocence. And again, you were at an impressionable age and unfortunately there are men out there who try to exploit that. Don't put yourself down if looking back, you would have done something differently. You acted at that time with the wisdom and experience of a fourteen year old girl. I'm glad you were okay in the end and wish you healing and understanding. I hope you can find peace with the situation and move forward.

[Rive1976]

Thank you. Looking back i think he was very attracted to me but k new my mom would kick his butt if he touched me and my stepdad would have too.

[Rive1976]

It doesnt affect me. So im ok there.