A section in my courage to heal book asks when was the last time you felt safe.

Safe? I don't remember ever feeling completely safe. Distracted for a couple of moments perhaps, but not what seemingly refers to safe.

Does anyone else find this a totally foreign concept? I find I have grown to accept the fact that there will always be something to make me feel unsafe... Firstly there was all the abuse, then different life situations.. some I got myself into, some not from my control. And I guess I relate being unsafe to more than being physically or emotionally unsafe.. I think there can be financial unsafety, or unsafety in that you dont have the things you need...

I guess I am really not clear on what safe defines, as I seem to have trouble defining it for myself.

Ideas and thoughts?

[mtd]

For me, "safe" today is more about making sure I have remained in control of what I can, in fact, control -- that is, that I have not surrendered that power to others. When I was abused, I did not have that power. With the damage to my self-esteem and confidence that resulted, I was remained an esay target for those who wanted to control my life or manipulate me or take things from me. I work today to take that power back and keep it. That makes me feel safe. Life's circumstances I cannot always control -- but I can control how empowered I am when those times arrive. And I can choose who to surround myself wuth in life so that when challenges do arise, I am with people I can trust to help me. This makes me feel safe. I guess it's about feeling empowered.

hope this helps.

be well,

mtd

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