[brooke0214]

I was in a very abusive marriage for almost 12 years. When we split, I never sought help...thinking time would heal all. I was wrong. I still have flashbacks daily, constantly. I swear its like i can feel the blows to my face when I get stuck on certain memories. When does it stop??

[Bill3]

I’m sorry that you are having such awful flashbacks.

I suggest that you seek professional help. Your life can be better.

[Skeezyks]

Well... what I can tell you is that I'm 70 years old. I was bullied both verbally & physically by a gang of older boys throughout high school. And I still have flashbacks all these years later. So, based on my own experience, I'd have to say it never really goes away. It moderates. And working through it in therapy may help. (I never did that. So I can't say.) But stop? Nah-h-h-h...

My personal go-to practice for dealing with these sorts of things is what is referred to as compassionate abiding. Here's a link to a description:

Relieve Distress By Allowing It: Compassionate Abiding 101 | Mindset: Perspective Is Everything

May it be of benefit.

I think it's normal after a trauma. I don't have flashbacks but instead, I sometimes have nightmares. I agree with Bill that you should seek professional help. You are at peace physically (in that you left the abuser) but maybe your mind also needs to find peace.

[leomama]

Originally Posted by brooke0214

I was in a very abusive marriage for almost 12 years. When we split, I never sought help...thinking time would heal all. I was wrong. I still have flashbacks daily, constantly. I swear its like i can feel the blows to my face when I get stuck on certain memories. When does it stop??

I’m sorry to say but it stops when you get help.