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Old 02-19-2021, 05:55 PM   #1
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Confused Fear and narcissistic emotional abuse

How can I deal with the fear Iím experiencing from narcissistic abuse? Iím currently stuck in a situation that I donít yet feel comfortable leaving. I havenít put up any boundaries with my abuser because Iím afraid of the consequences. Their approach is covert and now that I realize whatís happening, Iíve been doing as much self-care as I can to try to counteract the impact on me. I guess itís kind of working, depending on the day.

Iíd really like to provide all the details here, but Iím honestly worried that somehow my abuser will track me down here (unfortunately, they know I have a history of narcissistic abuse). So if they find out and suspect I think they are narcissistic, Iím afraid theyíll launch into an overt devalue and discard phase. And smear me in such a way that could destroy my future plans, affecting my family members, too. I expect thatís eventually what would happen if I didnít leave, but Iím just biding my time temporarily until the timing of my escape is just right and I can go No Contact.

I trust my plan will work, but I worry Iím letting fear have too tight a hold on me right now and maybe I will allow fear of other peopleís disapproval (whether they are narcissistic or not) to limit my life for years to come. What can I do to deal with and/or fight this fear while still in the fog of abuse without tipping off my abuser? Or is there anyone who relates to this or who made it to the other side of a similar situation? Any ideas appreciated
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I may not have helpful advice considering i'm in a similar situation but i just want you to know i understand what you're going through. I also self care through daydreaming although i know that's not a healthy way to deal with reality but it's all i got. i know there's tons of self care tips out there so it wouldn't help to look.
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Thanks, @Armadillo Roll! It helps to know others can relate to this experience. And Iíve always been a daydreamer, too.

For self care Iíve been trying journaling, some art therapy, and a little meditation. I also started reading a book thatís been helping called The Tao of Pooh as an introduction to Taoism. All of these things do help distract me temporarily from everything going on. But the fear just creeps up on me again even on good days with lots of self care. There are times I wish I could just flip a switch and turn my brain off or something.
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I may not have helpful advice considering i'm in a similar situation but i just want you to know i understand what you're going through. I also self care through daydreaming although i know that's not a healthy way to deal with reality but it's all i got. i know there's tons of self care tips out there so it wouldn't help to look.
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