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Trig Apr 21, 2021 at 07:52 PM
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I grew up with two sister and three brother. All of my siblings are all jealous of their own shadows, allowed their kids to terrorize me growing up, stole my toys, clothes, spread bad rumor about me, threaten me. All three of my brother are mentally ill. I lost many friendships, potential dates because of the lies they had told about me which land into physical and mental abuse from our mom. I had both wrist broken, one arm broken by two of my brother one of my brother had pulled many weapons on me that my mom claim I deserve because I had started it even though all I did was wrong was walk into a room. Three of my brother would dominated what I could watch, how often I could eat if I could eat, what I could do in my room. I had the police at my residence nearly every day their exes would call social service and makes up lies that my mom blamed me for due to their exes being jealous of me. I became very depressed suffer from anxiety due to hyperventilating because of the stress I am constantly under. After my mom passed away? I thought things would change for the better.

I just wanted to heal from all of these emotional wounds I have suffered from. How do you heal from this kind of abuse?
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As a victim of sibling abuse, I am finding it very hard to fully heal from all that I suffered. I was physically and emotionally abused by my sister growing up and she still bullies me. Therapy has helped a lot but hasn’t completely healed the wounds. It allows me to manage it better. Going to less contact or no contact also helps as well. Good luck to you.
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In order for you to actually heal you need to completely distance from all these individuals. I am sorry you suffered so much abuse. These individuals won't change either, it's how they find their sense of power, something they lack in themselves.

I have gone through a lot with my older sister and I have a few things I have to deal with and then I don't plan on having anything more to do with her.
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As a victim of sibling abuse, I am finding it very hard to fully heal from all that I suffered. I was physically and emotionally abused by my sister growing up and she still bullies me. Therapy has helped a lot but hasn’t completely healed the wounds. It allows me to manage it better. Going to less contact or no contact also helps as well. Good luck to you.
If I could relocate from my family? I would but because I am on disability which is what is preventing me from having a normal life. I notice that I feel angry all the time. I feel like I have ptsd. I went to therapy when I was thirteen years old which shamed my mom and I didn’t get the help that I needed. I found a therapist last year who did one session with me and that was it and I was diagnosed with codependency and abandonment.
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In order for you to actually heal you need to completely distance from all these individuals. I am sorry you suffered so much abuse. These individuals won't change either, it's how they find their sense of power, something they lack in themselves.

I have gone through a lot with my older sister and I have a few things I have to deal with and then I don't plan on having anything more to do with her.
It very hard when you have no choice but to live with them. I found that I am not allowed to have an opinion or expressed my concern without being threaten. It causes physical health problems.
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I had no idea your family was so violent! So sorry about all your injuries.

I understand how frustrating it is to not be able to leave because when I'm feeling trapped and depressed, people tell me to just move or find a new job which I have been trying for years. When you can't get out, people tell you that you are choosing to stay or that you want to be a victim because something it wrong with you.

I don't know if it would work for you, but I sort of cope by knowing that I am better than my abusers. I know they call me stupid because they feel stupid. I know they attack me because they are too cowardly to attack others. I still feel bad when they slander me to others, but anyone who believes the slander was never worth having as a friend. It's still an unplessant life, but I don't suffer from self-esteem issues because I see abusers as insecure internally miserable people. I hope you find your own way to cope and that we'll both be free of our families someday.

Thanks for being such a good friend in all this.
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I had no idea your family was so violent! So sorry about all your injuries.

I understand how frustrating it is to not be able to leave because when I'm feeling trapped and depressed, people tell me to just move or find a new job which I have been trying for years. When you can't get out, people tell you that you are choosing to stay or that you want to be a victim because something it wrong with you.

I don't know if it would work for you, but I sort of cope by knowing that I am better than my abusers. I know they call me stupid because they feel stupid. I know they attack me because they are too cowardly to attack others. I still feel bad when they slander me to others, but anyone who believes the slander was never worth having as a friend. It's still an unplessant life, but I don't suffer from self-esteem issues because I see abusers as insecure internally miserable people. I hope you find your own way to cope and that we'll both be free of our families someday.

Thanks for being such a good friend in all this.
That is so true about when you can’t get out. That is great advice. I will keep that in mind.
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