Problems Being Social

Have any of you had problems being social, or more accurately, problems wanting to be social? Does behavioral therapy work? Are there any other methods people have found efficacious?

I have found that I do not like being around people or even speaking with them. This wouldn't bother me if I was able to avoid them completely but that is becoming less of a possibility these days. Employment usually requires social interaction, even if self-employed there is usually customer interaction.

I am not nervous or anxious nor even awkward when in social settings. The only clue most people have that I'm a bit off is when they find out I have no social media accounts and have no interest is attending social events. Then the rumor mill starts sputtering. When it becomes obvious I don't care about it, it only exacerbates the problem.

I have thought about telling them the truth but that seems like it would just make things worse not better. Over-shareing and telling people you don't like interacting socially is a bad sales pitch.

I'm on no medication, have never been diagnosed with anything. I tried therapy but my therapist didn't know how to help me and when I asked not to be complimented their schedule was suddenly always full.

Yes, I believe I unfortunately worry about the worst in people and the only positive in that is that I am aware of it. I dislike talking with people because I find most people to be shallow but if I'm honest with myself I know that I crave getting to know people more.

I too, am not awkward or nervous in social settings either, but if they don't have a definite ending I do find them draining and need time to myself. I too abhor social media - I find it trite and shallow.

I honestly think it's just a type. I found social interactions that suited me like...ones that are surrounding a topic of interest, like a book club or philosophy club...and then talking about that and once the hour is up everyone logs off.

I prefer that type of socializing, and on occasion I have found 1 or 2 people that I manage to socialize with here and there.

I'm not sure its an issue, but if you want to socialize more, maybe you're just not a "going out to a bar and chatting forever" person...or a "let's take a selfie" person.

I had never considered book clubs. Reading has long been a favorite hobby of mine. I will look into it. Thank you for your time and imput.