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Default Oct 03, 2021 at 12:33 AM
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I was hurt about 6 years ago. The people involved got away with it. Now I’m being stalked. I’m not sure why this is being allowed but I have done nothing wrong. What can I do now?
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Default Oct 03, 2021 at 12:31 PM
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That's awful. Wish I knew what to advise but sadly I don't. Don't know the details, but if you are in danger , you could call the police. We wouldn't want anything bad to happen to you. Please stay safe!
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Default Oct 03, 2021 at 03:26 PM
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Call the police and file a restraining order against the person(s) stalking you. I'm sorry you are going through this.
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Default Oct 05, 2021 at 04:05 PM
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I was also stalked and told to report it to the police. They may not do anything until something bad happens. But, at least, they will have a record of what is happening to you.
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Call the police.
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Default Oct 18, 2021 at 04:43 PM
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I was hurt about 6 years ago. The people involved got away with it. Now I’m being stalked. I’m not sure why this is being allowed but I have done nothing wrong. What can I do now?
I been stalked multiple times and when I reported the stalking the police wouldn’t do anything unless I had a lawyer and when I went to the lawyer the lawyer wouldn’t do anything to help me without a police report. Have you sought out counseling to help with the trauma you are going through? Did you let your neighbor and job know about the stalking? Maybe they can call the police as well and make a report?

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I was hurt about 6 years ago. The people involved got away with it. Now I’m being stalked. I’m not sure why this is being allowed but I have done nothing wrong. What can I do now?
If, for whatever reason, you're afraid of police in your area and/or cannot afford appropriate lawyers, consider calling your local Victim's advocacy in your area.

Are you in the U.S.? If so, let me get you some Victim's advocacy info so that you can find support in a different way - especially for what some criminologists would call "unsubstantiated victimization." You may still be awarded benefits from your state's victimization funding if you can ask them for help with filing a non-emergency police report, etc. Sometimes they can offer counseling, pro-bono lawyers, and other assistance such as relocating expenses and vocational rehabilitation, should you choose to escape your stalker, whomever that may be.

Here's a list of resources:

Victim Support Services

NOVA (National Organization for Victim Assistance)

RAINN

U.S. Department of Justice re: Stalking

Office for Victims of Crime re: Stalking

National Center for Victims of Crime: 1-855-4-VICTIM (1-855-484-2846)

Someplace Safe

Someplace Safe: 24-Hour Crisis Hotline: 800-974-3359

Safe Hope

Safe Hope: 24-hour Help Line: (800) 487-0510 | (316) 283-0350

Victim Connect Resource Center

Victim Connect: phone or text at 1-855-4-VICTIM (1-855-484-2846)

Stalking Resource Center
National Center for Victims of Crime
1-202-467-8700
www.ncvc.org/src

National Network to End Domestic Violence
Safety Net Project
1-202-543-5566
https://nnedv.org/content/technology-safety/

National Domestic Violence Hotline
1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
TTY 1-800-787-3224
www.thehotline.org

Directory of Crime Victim Services
Office for Victims of Crime
Office of Justice Programs
U.S. Department of Justice
http://ovc.ncjrs.gov/findvictimservices

If you're in the military or are a veteran, there are additional services I can find for you.

Hopefully one of these services helps.

Try all of them, and then figure out which one is the best one for you.
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Default Oct 18, 2021 at 06:38 PM
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In addition to the above list for stalking victim resources, you can also:

1. Ask for assistance from a local and trustworthy church (if you don't have spiritual trauma or ritual trauma that triggers you too much).

2. Ask for assistance from some trustworthy friends within or outside the neighborhood, so long as none of them are connected in the past or present to your stalker(s).

3. Ask for assistance from some trustworthy friends outside of your state, too, just in case you choose to relocate safely - without your stalker(s) knowing.

4. Make a plan to relocate and start over, should that be the final resort.

You can start downsizing your items by selling or donating in safe ways - make sure you have someone with you when selling or donating (don't be alone, not even with volunteer donation pickup crews).

You can also write (not type) a list of possible relocation areas and jobs you can get, etc. You don't want to be cyberstalked either, so try to write things down and put them in a safe space, or, if you're good with memory, write them down in a coded way only you can decode - like assigning numbers and colors to certain places and things.

Stash cash as well as save money in your account, just in case - depending on how bad the stalking is (whether it be from a group, a family member or more, a past cult, an ex, an ex and his or her family, a person in a position of power like an ex who is a cop, etc.).

Figure out an escape plan - such as whom you can contact in a jiffy should you need a ride out of town or out of state, or should you need to store your items in an offsite storage while leaving a key with a trustworthy neighbor or friend while you take only what's needed to leave.

You can then ask your trustworthy friend to hire a moving company about 3 to 6 months later (or longer) to get the stuff in storage to you (unless mailing would be cheaper, so long as the stalker isn't monitoring your trustworthy neighbor by then). There are many options, depending on your situation. But this is a LAST RESORT.

5. If the stalker is in a position of power or works in any way for the government, you can also contact the FBI.

6. If you need to stay where you're at, then consider fighting for the long-run, and doing everything in your power to build "capable guardianship," meaning that you should build as much protection as possible.

Examples: a huge social circle of protective friends, a range of reports to law enforcement or otherwise just in case (if this deters the stalker in any way), notification to trustworthy coworkers or your boss (if possible), an alarm system for your home, a protective guard dog (or two), self-defense courses, etc.

This is the tougher route, unfortunately, since stalkers tend to get away with their crimes, or only get slapped with misdemeanor or short-term felony charges. Like domestic violence victims, reporting could exacerbate the stalker's behavior to the point that they escalate and become violent. You don't want this happening either. You want justice, but you also want to be safe and free. Having as many protections as possible builds enough "capable guardianship" to deter or ward off your stalker as long as possible - at least until you can eventually find the means to pack, leave, and start over. Unfortunately, this is what many stalking victims have had to do in order to move on.
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Default Oct 20, 2021 at 12:53 AM
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Hey everyone,

I wanted to give an update. I had a string of bad luck when I was a kid into my teenage years and things are shaping up this was not an accident. Not really sure where to go from here but I just wanted to say thanks for the replies.

Family members are much older and there is a age gap that they don’t understand things from my generation. I’m also a late bloomer and feel like I’m ahead of most in my generation when it comes to trends, fashion, and music. Still staying strong.
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Hey everyone,

I wanted to give an update. I had a string of bad luck when I was a kid into my teenage years and things are shaping up this was not an accident. Not really sure where to go from here but I just wanted to say thanks for the replies.

Family members are much older and there is a age gap that they don’t understand things from my generation. I’m also a late bloomer and feel like I’m ahead of most in my generation when it comes to trends, fashion, and music. Still staying strong.
I’m always happy to help. I been stalked online for four years.

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Default Oct 26, 2021 at 09:02 AM
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I think what has happened is everyone tried to make it political when it was really just a neglect case and the doctors looked the other way. People that tried to get into my life have had a agenda and they are upset at me because I have high standards. Some people are so hypocritical!

Family members never thought I would make any sort of recovery and are now upset they are sketched out me thinks.

Honestly I’m cool with me and that’s OK but I’m trying to find a lifestyle that will be productive for myself now that I’m older and have my life together.

This is a situation that people have been butt hurt because I’m trying to thrive and they aren’t.

Thanks for listening. Have a nice day.
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