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Default Dec 19, 2021 at 01:52 AM
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i cannot stop wondering if my abuser meant to do the harm they did or not.

did he know he was raping me? does he know now? what does he think about it? about me?

i can’t stop analyzing the conversation we had after

and i can’t stop thinking about what happened that night

i just go over things again and again, i wish i could talk to him to just ask, but he would never admit it anyway
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Default Dec 19, 2021 at 07:31 AM
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It might help to write a letter of "restorative justice"---that says....this is what you did, this is how it made me feel. You can keep the letter or send it. The letter is for YOU.....using your voice about that terrible violation.
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Default Dec 28, 2021 at 12:14 PM
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I also think about my abusers. Do they feel guilty about the things they did to me? Or do they feel powerful and still think it was funny? Do they know how much physically and mentally they hurt me? I am pretty sure my sister thinks of our fights with pride but not sure about all the others who have come and gone.

I have written restorative justice letters but did not mail them. They helped a bit.
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