Tips for cutting off family members I still love? (trans m 17)

My step-father physically + emotionally abused my mother, and emotionally abused my siblings and I. I cut contact with him when I was 16 after they split, but because of ****** custody stuff, it's been messy. We've had issues with him breaking restraining orders and him trying to follow us out of the state even after their separation. They have shared custody of my siblings (he's their biological father, but not mine), and it makes things messy. Even after all of this, even some of the members of my mother's family still side with him and stay friends with him even though they KNOW what happened and have even been on the bad side of his ****. I'm physically safe with them, but I know that I need to love them from a distance and cut contact with them if I want to start fully healing and unpacking all of this. (Planning on doing this after I turn 18 in December.) I'm just scared of how messy it's going to make everything and how they're going to react. I've cut off family before, but this is different because of how close we used to be, plus the fact that I'm only cutting off a couple specific people.


Any advice/tips? Thanks.

Hello gatorguy: I'm sorry I don't think there's any advice I can offer with regard to your concerns. But I noticed this is your first post here on MSF. So... welcome to the forums. I hope you find them to be of benefit.

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