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Content warning: mention of sexual assault, not graphic.
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He was founded. And that is why he got kicked out of the military. He was founded, got married, had another kid, has a nice house, lives care free in a place that I will never be able to step foot again because of him. But he was founded and I was believed and now I can move on, right? I want the girl I was before him back. I miss her. But hey, at least I'm somewhat closer to getting closure, right? |
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I am so very sorry that happened to you. How utterly heartbreaking! I think it is completely understandable that you want the girl you were before that man. You carry such a heavy, heavy burden. I wish I knew how to lighten your burdens!
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When someone takes advantage of someone young and naive they are weak scum. You have now learned the reality that some people can never be trusted. You are still you, but now you are wise that there are bad people out there in the world.
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__________________ Everyone can do magic - Cassie Nightgale the good witch. Dear Diary today will be different today I can smile it will be genuine because today is the day I get to live. This life will be good and beautiful, but not without heartbreak. In death come peace. But pain is the cost of living. Like love, it's how we know we're alive. And life goes on. That my life weird, messy, complicated, sad, wonderful, amazing, and above all epic and I owe all to Stephen. - Eleanor Gilbert Vampire Diaries |
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I'm so sorry this happened to you. I know it can be so hard to watch the ones who abused us live normal and successful lives like nothing happened. I'm glad you got one step closer to closure. I assure you the girl you were still resides inside you and she needs your love <3
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I appreciate the positive support on this thread. I must admit that this particular comment doesn't inspire much confidence in people's understanding of the situation. I think there were assumptions made in this reply, and I can't shake the feeling it was a bit "victim blame-y." Maybe this wasn't your intention, but wording things correctly is important so avoid confrontation and potentially hurt feelings. I'm not hurt by the comment but I did want to share my stance on it. Thank you.
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Completely agree with you that wording things carefully and correctly is vitally important. ''Victim blaming'' (even if it might not be intentional) is harmful and the opposite of ''intelligent'' and ''strong''... imho. Thank you for your honest feedback, I appreciate it. I hope you keep posting. My best to you __________________ |
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__________________ Everyone can do magic - Cassie Nightgale the good witch. Dear Diary today will be different today I can smile it will be genuine because today is the day I get to live. This life will be good and beautiful, but not without heartbreak. In death come peace. But pain is the cost of living. Like love, it's how we know we're alive. And life goes on. That my life weird, messy, complicated, sad, wonderful, amazing, and above all epic and I owe all to Stephen. - Eleanor Gilbert Vampire Diaries |
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''I want the girl I was before him back. I miss her'' I know what you mean
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__________________ Everyone can do magic - Cassie Nightgale the good witch. Dear Diary today will be different today I can smile it will be genuine because today is the day I get to live. This life will be good and beautiful, but not without heartbreak. In death come peace. But pain is the cost of living. Like love, it's how we know we're alive. And life goes on. That my life weird, messy, complicated, sad, wonderful, amazing, and above all epic and I owe all to Stephen. - Eleanor Gilbert Vampire Diaries |
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#13
__________________ Everyone can do magic - Cassie Nightgale the good witch. Dear Diary today will be different today I can smile it will be genuine because today is the day I get to live. This life will be good and beautiful, but not without heartbreak. In death come peace. But pain is the cost of living. Like love, it's how we know we're alive. And life goes on. That my life weird, messy, complicated, sad, wonderful, amazing, and above all epic and I owe all to Stephen. - Eleanor Gilbert Vampire Diaries |
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#14
This thread is being closed at the OP's request.
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