[yung30]

<font color="#880000"> </font> I am a domestic violence survivor, my abuser has been inarcerated for eight years after trying to murder me and his unborn son. I just recieved a certified letter from the post man the other day.....my ex-husband is being parolled. After eight short years of being able to lead a normal happy life with friends and family, my son and I have lost all of that with one letter. I fear that he will no doubt come looking for us, his cruel words still stinging in my ears. Can my kids still know the life we have come to love or must we hide like rabbits in a warren. Will the bus stop be the fun morning event with are neighbors it used to be or a deadly walk from our front door? Why should we live in fear? We have committed no crime, we have never hurt another living thing. We just want to live! Even now the fear consumes me as I sit here and look at my sons smiling face.............His jail sentence will end soon and ours will just begin....

[pachyderm]

You need local resources, I would think. Can the police help? Are there some local safe-house type places that could give you leads to what to do?

[Cyran0]

I'm so sorry that's happening to you. I agree that you need local help. Go to this website and click on your state. You'll find hotlines, shelters, legal advocates and whatever else your area has to offer.

http://www.playingtheangel.org/Resources.htm

Good luck and be safe.

Cyran0

[Kiya]

and maybe start with a restraining order? have you confided in your neighbors so they can be a apart of your safety net, another eye out for danger?

[sabby]

I'm so sorry you and your family are going through this. It certainly doesn't seem fair now does it?

My suggestion would be to contact your local victims witness advocate office for assistance with this issue. I think you are entitled to know exactly where your ex is being parolled to (if he is being paroled). If he has maxed out his time in jail, he can walk out a free man and go wherever he wants to go. Scary proposition.

Now is the time to plan plan plan. I know it's horrible to feel on pins and needles and having to look over your shoulder at every turn right now. But yours and your sons safety is the utmost of importance right now. Planning and having safety plans in place will help you feel a bit more secure at least in knowing that you are being proactive in this situation.

I wish you and your family safety and I pray your ex goes far away in another direction from you.


sabby

He'll also have a parole officer. You can call your local parole office and ask to talk to his PO. Tell the PO you want to ensure that this jerk's parole agreement states that he cannot contact you or your family in any way. So, if he does, he goes immediately back to jail to complete his sentence. The PO will probably have already put it in the agreement - but call to be sure. It's good to know his PO anyhow, and for his PO to know you - so he/she will be more aware of the situation.

You need to do this in addition to the order of protection - it's faster.

Take care!! Campy