I need to hear success stories... please, I'm desperate...

I'm really in a bad place right now. In a sentence, behind on ALL bills, things disconnected, no savings, negative money, no job, 300lbs, physical illnesses flaring, no health insurance, 450 miles away from my rented-home, no close relationships (people to lean on), and stuck in the home of the people who severely, severely abused me for 18 years. (came home b/c one of my parents was seriously ill, surgery, etc)

I just need to hear from people who went through hellacious abuse and are doing well today. I did ok for a while... I went to grad school, I have my own place, nice things, had nice friends, nice relationships.... but I've lost all of that... please, I need to hear that someone made it out ok.

Thank you.

((((((((((singlegirl))))))))))
There is light at the end of the dark tunnel; just keep focusing on it and moving towards it.

I do OK, for the most part. I have a lot of the same problems you do, particularly financially and health wise right now, but the one is a result of just choosing a low-paying field and the other -- eh, let's not go there.

I went through multiple kinds of abuse at the hands of both parents, but I have a graduate degree (completed while severely depressed), decent friendships (though I moved out of the town where most of my friends are, I'm still in close contact), a job in my field, etc.

I have days where it all bites me in the butt -- I don't know if that ever goes away. But I've learned to cope with it, more or less, and get on with my life.

I hope that helps.

Success? Well, quite a bit better, anyway -- after many years of working on it, things seem to be promising. Still working on things, but now it feels as though I am gaining ground instead of losing it!

Keep trying...

tried to reply earlier, not sure where it went, but thank you, all of you, I greatly appreciate your kindness

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I just need to hear from people who went through hellacious abuse and are doing well today.

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I am here today to tell YOU that there is HOPE - I PROMISE!!

((((((( hugs )))))))

Yes... there is plenty of hope.....

have been in abusive relationship.. bills... glaore... going thru divorce.. with a baby... negative cash outflow.. "robbing peter to pay paul"...

and yet.. over time... found one string.. in the tangled knot.. that was my life.. and pulled that out.. then another string.. and then another... each string got easier... as time progressed..

so... yes... there is hope.. in caps HOPE...

Well, mine is becoming a success story if this helps. I was emotionally and sexually abused from a young age. I am 43 now. I have had councelling, group therapy throughout my entire life. I only just got to see a qualified abuse councillor (sp) and she is amazing. She has been through exactly the same as me. We have clicked and i am just starting deep therapy. Yesterday was extremely tough. But i am in a situation to be able to handle it now. There IS HOPE and always will be. I am a survivor not a victim now. I see the end. I see my life being complete and 100% where as before i ws living through hell. PTSD, disossiative amnesia, anxiety, depression, suicidal thoughts etc etc .... i am healing slowly but surely, yes i have setbacks, but i KNOW i will get through this. There was a stage not very long ago when i thought 'no way will ii ever learn to live with this' but i was wrong. Depression lies, abuse destroys self esteem, confidence, makes you feel worthless and not deserving friends or love.

I am getting better .... I WILL BE HEALED ..... i couldn't say that a year ago .... I hope this helps. love and care to you

Jinnyann xoxoxoxoxoxo

may i also add i am coming through it a much stronger person, i think abuse makes you more compassionate and caring, a positive to come out of a negative

OK, I have one.

I was sexually abused from age 9-11and thought I was worthless untill I met someone that changed my outlook on life. That was when I was really having trouble in addition to the abuse I grew up poor in a single parent household we shared with my abuser and his family. We were cousins. It was him and his older friends. They did unspeakable things to me which I won't relate.

In 1980 I was homeless and broke. I worked out of that and was doing ok when I found myself homeless and broke again in 87. I worked even harder and got smarter.

Fast forward and today I have 6 grandkids, 2 homes, an RV
3 vehicals and financial security. In 26 months I will be out of debt except for my managable mortgage. I live well with my DW of 35 years who dearly loves me. I have an optomistic outlook on life and I work very hard at my jobs and have been successful in 3 business ventures.
If I stay on track, God willing, I will retire in 10 years or less and be able to live out my yeats in relitive comfort.

Good Luck to you,

((((((jinnyann))))))

I know the feeling! but I can say i am better now than 5 years ago.

thank you for sharing guys, these are very helpful.. it's especially comforting to hear that i'm not the only one who crawled out just to end up back in a hole... i'm in my second hole since escaping... it's getting deeper.. but it's nice to know that it doesn't have to be the end...

thanks again for sharing, you guys are so strong