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Member
Member Since Apr 2003
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Jul 17, 2003 at 11:53 PM
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hello we just found out that a friend of ours committed suicide we stopped talking for about a month cause we was scared of her getting too close now she is gone and we are partially to blame cant stop crying wish so bad we could have been a better friend :'(
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Poohbah
Member Since Mar 2002
Location: Washington, USA
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Jul 18, 2003 at 10:32 AM
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{{{{{{hugs}}}}}} Do not blame yourselves. It is easy to say that if you had been a better friend things would not have worked out the way they did but it isn't necessarily true. You see people commit suicide because they are mentally ill. You friendship would not take that illness away. You might argue that if you had been there she would have had someone to talk too but you are not the only one in her world. She had other people to talk to as well and she didn't. Chances are she wouldn't have talked to you either. When a person gets to that state they have a tendency to close themselves off from everyone who is close to them that is why they feel so very alone. Please don't blame yourselves.
Carrie <font color=blue>The important thing is this: to be able at any momeent to sacrifice what we are for what we could become.--Charles Du Bos |
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Member Since Oct 2002
Location: MA, usa
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Jul 18, 2003 at 11:20 AM
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I agree with Carrie... I know it is a hard thing to deal with when someone who was close to you dies... especially when they committed suicide... but you are not to blame, and i know we could all say that until we're blue in the face... but u may still think so... but i guess we can try then.... You are not to blame! She made a choice that was no one's but her own. You didn't choose it for her, and being there for her may not have done anything at all, because as Carrie said, she would probably have been at the point where she closed herself off, as many people who are suicidal do. (((hugs)))
~Julie "Sometimes it takes us to the bottom of our misery to understand the truth..." ~Gustav Havel - existentialist __________________ "Sometimes it takes us to the bottom of our misery to understand the truth..." ~Gustav Havel - existentialist |
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