[DontSayIt]

My boyfriend and I got into an argument last night. He said horrible things, then wanted to get close to me and tell me more horrible things. I pulled away and said, "I don't know why you can say things like that and then think you can touch me!" I had been crying for a while. His response was to throw his drink in my face, then break the mug on the floor. I walked away, he followed, picked up the Valentine's gift I gave him, trashed it verbally, threw it, and then shoved me. I have a lovely bruise on my arm today from "falling" into the doorway edge. He told me to leave, that he was going to make up things about me to tell people, and he threw my cat outside. Later he started in again and decided to stop for no reason that I could tell other than I was giving in to his accusations and opinions. He wants to know when I plan on growing up, he says I'm just like everyone he can't stand. I told him I would never be grown up enough for him. He eventually just calmed down. I don't know why or how. He had me put on some shoes and he drove us to the store. He sang along to one of his cd's on the way and tried to get me to also. He bought more liquor at the store.

I don't always know why I'm with him. I don't always think things will change for him. I don't like his effect on my life. I hate giving my life away. Thanks for reading.

[FerretGuy5]

Originally Posted by DontSayIt

My boyfriend and I got into an argument last night. He said horrible things, then wanted to get close to me and tell me more horrible things. I pulled away and said, "I don't know why you can say things like that and then think you can touch me!" I had been crying for a while. His response was to throw his drink in my face, then break the mug on the floor. I walked away, he followed, picked up the Valentine's gift I gave him, trashed it verbally, threw it, and then shoved me. I have a lovely bruise on my arm today from "falling" into the doorway edge. He told me to leave, that he was going to make up things about me to tell people, and he threw my cat outside. Later he started in again and decided to stop for no reason that I could tell other than I was giving in to his accusations and opinions. He wants to know when I plan on growing up, he says I'm just like everyone he can't stand. I told him I would never be grown up enough for him. He eventually just calmed down. I don't know why or how. He had me put on some shoes and he drove us to the store. He sang along to one of his cd's on the way and tried to get me to also. He bought more liquor at the store.

I don't always know why I'm with him. I don't always think things will change for him. I don't like his effect on my life. I hate giving my life away. Thanks for reading.

And you haven't yet told him never to call you again? you can do much better. Real men don't abuse women like that.

[Capp]

((DontSayIt))

Jmo, but "sometimes" doesn't adequately describe what this man is doing to you...

You are a worthwhile human being and deserve to be treated with respect and dignity.
Please don't accept anything less than those two basic but powerful things.

Do you have any place else you could stay for awhile? A safe place...
Perhaps some time away from each other would help you to see how badly he is treating you. It doesn't matter if it's occasionally or regularly...it's wrong what he is doing.

Please take care of yourself. Post and let us know how you are doing, ok?
We Care

Cap

[Sher8907]

You don't deserve any of that treatment..I spent my whole childhood seeing my mom treated like that from every guy she was with, and how much it tore her up and brought her down....sooner or later, something bad is going to happen. And you need to prevent it. You need to find somewhere new to stay. Maybe call your local YMCA and see what they could do. Or call some family and friends and explain the situation...emotional and mental abuse can be a lot more harder to get over than physical...I hope everything works out for you. A real man would NEVER act like that to a person they claim to love.

[DontSayIt]

I want to thank you for your support. I'm doing fine, just had the initial numbness and the depressed mood that followed. I do have limits, but they haven't been reached yet. I'll always keep my goals and needs in mind. I don't want my life to end up screwed because of him, in all honesty I've taken plenty of bad advice from and that's done with. Yes, he treats me like crap any time he feels wronged or stressed out. I want to adopt children when I'm 30 years+ and he won't be in my life at that time if he continues to act anything like this.

[nonightowl]

Awww....((((((Don't)))))...

It gave me a jolt feeling in my gut when I came across this post of yours..SO SORRY to hear about this thing you've been going through....I was hoping things were better. PM me whenever you feel up to it.