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Apr 22, 2009, 11:37 AM
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I currently live with my Father who is such a negative figure in my life. He's irrational, illogical and about as negative a person as you could meet. Furthermore, he tries to take out his negativity on me. He's always telling me how I can't do this or can't do that. The other day he was telling me how I couldn't buy a new car because my credit isn't 100%. He accuses me of doing things I didn't do all the time. I'm tired of his negativity, accusations and overall verbal abuse against me.
I can't move out yet because of financial issues. What can I do about this horrible situation and to NOT become my Dad? |
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Apr 22, 2009, 01:04 PM
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I am sorry that you have to be exposed to this. It sounds like you know that his behavior is not right so, therefore, you won't imitate it with others. Just keep aware of what you do so that you can catch yourself if you do ever act like him?
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Apr 22, 2009, 02:03 PM
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I know my Dad's behavior is wrong, in fact it's down right ridiculous! It's just being exposed to it all time is draining. I need to figure a way to break free, I'm just not sure how yet........Thanks again for the response Sannah! |
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Apr 23, 2009, 08:19 AM
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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Apr 23, 2009, 09:40 AM
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Hi William
 I don't know how old you are, but you mention being in school. Is there a counselor at school, or a teacher you really like that you can talk to about this? Or maybe a friend's parent? It does not sound like talking to your father would be very productive. You might give some "I" statements a try if you think it might help. Like, "Dad, I feel so dumb and hurt when you talk to me like that." Or "Dad, when you say things like that to me I feel like you don't like or even love me, do you?" You might get some self help books to read on this. Also having a plan, like Sannah said is an excellent idea. Start preparing to get out of that situation, save money, go away for college, maybe even think about other relatives or friends you could go live with, if it is that bad for you. What he is doing is very harmful to you. I hope you can get help for yourself and get out of that situation as soon as possible. Take care of yourself. And keep posting here! 
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 I'd rather have a visit, note or pretty picture than an "I'll say a prayer" or a "god bless you." Doesn't make me feel better, no meaning to me for sure. Can't stop you from praying and blessing me, and if that makes you feel better feel free. But keep it to yourself please, don't tell me. And let's all respect each other's feelings. With kindness, support and "sweet dreamings." 
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