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It’s hard to believe nobody’ has posted here in over a year !
I think I know why . Because not many in recovery think they need the 12 steps. That’s why there’s so many relapses. It’s not just about putting down the addiction it’s about changing your whole way of thinking. Changing your whole way of life. You can “white knuckle “ your way through sobriety or you can work these principles and actually know how it feels to be happy without the addiction. __________________ Trying to Live in the Moment |
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It seems like it's been forgotten about, if no one has posted for a year. Wow!
Which is your favourite step and why? |
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My favorite step is 12 because service comes easily to me. I'm always up for volunteering. I volunteered to read at my first 12 step meeting in Overeaters Anonymous.
Honestly, I am not at all good with the 11th step. Prayer and meditation do not come easily to me. |
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Sounds like you really know yourself @downandlonely... that's so good!
I find something like tai-chi works better for me, as there is movement involved, rather than just meditation alone. Though, I have been doing guided meditation through Insight Timer and it's been working out. Was Overeaters Anonymous helpful? I ask b/c I'm an emotional eater... |
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I hear in the past, Overeaters Anonymous used to have a list of forbidden foods (such as sugar). But now each person defines their own abstinence and food plan. Mine is basically not overeating and not eating when I'm not hungry. There are meetings on Zoom all the time at oa.org. When I started in 2020, there weren't really any in person meetings, but they do have quite a few now. |
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Thank you, @downandlonely !! Good to know there are online meetings!!!
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Yes, all 12 step meetings are available online. I only started going to meetings in 2020, so I've never been to an in person meeting.
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inventories, your mistaken. I'm just stating the facts. What's true is true. This forum here is about the steps. And isn't addiction and working the steps a mental health issue ? __________________ Trying to Live in the Moment |
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I can't even get passed the first step
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__________________ Everyone can do magic - Cassie Nightgale the good witch. Dear Diary today will be different today I can smile it will be genuine because today is the day I get to live. This life will be good and beautiful, but not without heartbreak. In death come peace. But pain is the cost of living. Like love, it's how we know we're alive. And life goes on. That my life weird, messy, complicated, sad, wonderful, amazing, and above all epic and I owe all to Stephen. - Eleanor Gilbert Vampire Diaries |
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Hey @moodyblue83 I'm sure you are intending to but your posts ab0ut this forum and the steps are coming across kind of judegy. There are many people who use the 12 steps for years and fall out of meetings, lose touch with sober people and boom! Relapse after 20 years. But there are some people who successfully attended 12 step meetings, worked the steps, have a sponsor or sober network and feel like they are living the 12 steps to where maybe they dont need to share anymore about it. I will celebrate 10 years in december i moved to zoom because of covid and now I have a dilemia. I work for the police dept of the town/area that I went to meetings and got sober in. Sure anonymous, yes no one is supposed to judge but I do not want any of my employers to ever know about that part of me. thoughts?
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Yes, all 12 step meetings are available online. I only started going to meetings in 2020, so I've never been to one in person. I believe I can pass in the future.
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As far as your question about going to meetings in your town , chances are you will run into somebody connected with your employer. And people tend to gossip , so trying to maintain your anonymity may become problematic. That's a tough one to figure out. Maybe you can start your own little group with just a few people ? It's been said it only takes 2 people to have a meeting ! Almost forgot..... congratulations on your 10 years ! One day at a time. Good luck to you..... __________________ Trying to Live in the Moment |
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I don't have a problem with alcohol, but I was thinking that it may be helpful if the 12 Steps are posted, so I just posted them on this sub.
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I have lived by the 12 steps these past few years. Still working on them and have made it to Step 9, which is the amends. It's been a difficult journey for me, but it has changed my life and has been really helpful. I attended a lot of meetings, (in person), here in North Carolina, and even some on Zoom. The CODA meetings are really helpful too, (codependency anonymous) and has helped me work through the issues that I face with my husband.
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__________________ Everyone can do magic - Cassie Nightgale the good witch. Dear Diary today will be different today I can smile it will be genuine because today is the day I get to live. This life will be good and beautiful, but not without heartbreak. In death come peace. But pain is the cost of living. Like love, it's how we know we're alive. And life goes on. That my life weird, messy, complicated, sad, wonderful, amazing, and above all epic and I owe all to Stephen. - Eleanor Gilbert Vampire Diaries |
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