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I wanted to know what could help us children be brought up in such a way that they have no trauma nor the mental disorder developed due to their surroundings.
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I wish I knew the answer to that. I really do!
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I don’t believe such a thing is even possible.
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Raise them as hunter/gatherers once did. Children were never struck, they were encouraged to 'bother' adults while they were working so the children were taught valuable skills such as cooking and flint napping and they were encouraged to be curious. Unacceptable behavior was dealt with by reason, not punishment.
We are now a race of farmers and we now survive by agriculture instead which requires rigid harvest times, rigid schools, and little room for individuality. Just my theory. Having ADHD makes me more likely to identify with hunter/gatherers. __________________ ![]() You're only given one little spark of madness. You mustn't lose it. ~ Robin Williams Did you exchange a walk on part in the war for a lead role in a cage? ~ Pink Floyd |
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It’s a fantasy that children can be brought up with no trauma, difficult situations prepare children for life. Buddha was brought up in a cocoon and it wasn’t until he experienced death and trauma that he grew into a butterfly and gained wisdom. You must experience darkness to appreciate the light.
__________________ Nammu …Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. …... Desiderata Max Ehrmann |
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Poohbah
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Crone
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I never said to hit them nor was I justifying abuse. You cannot raise a child in a cocoon and expect them to be well adjusted. There’s natural consequences to behavior and that needs to be learned young. It’s part of growth to experience hurt and grow from it. You ride a teeter totter to hard you’ll fall off, and you will make adjustments and learn from it. But no now we gonna pad the playground and take away anything that might cause a splinter.
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Poohbah
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I agree with that analysis. We get in ruts where we won't talk about trauma. One time, a doctor told me she didn't particularly see any reason to talk about it and I thought...yeah, that's ok...but found years later that I really did need to talk. Do you have a good source for the Buddha on the net?
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Member Since Jun 2023
Location: India
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Create a loving and nurturing environment for your child. Show them unconditional love and support. Encourage their curiosity and exploration. Set clear boundaries and provide consistent discipline. Foster open communication and actively listen to them. Teach them empathy, kindness, and respect for others. Encourage their independence while providing guidance. Be a positive role model and celebrate their individuality. Prioritize their physical and emotional well-being.
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