anger

I'm kind of embarrassed so please don't laugh.
I have noticed recently that the week before my period I get really really really angry. Often it is about something that is already bothering me, but I have been able to squish down and not deal with. The last couple of times this has happened (embarrassingly) my T has ended up getting the brunt of my anger. If it isn't a specific thing or a specific person then often it is just being really irritable. It is like I have limited control over feeling angry during this time. I have total control over how I express my anger (and hardly often lash out at people: this usually just means telling my T I'm really angry at her about something that is really minor), but I can't seem to stop the anger that seems to seethe through my veins during this time. As soon as my period starts it is like I'm a completely new person who doesn't' have this pumping of anger under my skin. Literally it is the day of or the next day (if it starts in the evening) that I notice the change.

Does anyone else experience this? What do you do to stop it? It is such a bad week. It is like I can't stop the anger. It is like I was put on an IV of anger for that week.

Please help or give me advice.

It could be PMDD.

I looked at the symptoms of that and they don't really fit. They don't describe anger (except as irritability) as one of the symptoms. I don't really have any of the other symptoms to a distressing amount. Though I looked at the DSM 5 suggestions and I meet those criteria except that I don't know if I meet the severity criteria. I still do everything I would otherwise do, it is just harder.

It could be do to the hormonal imbalance that we experience right before our period. I sometimes get very irritable before my period. Some are more affected that others. I am just taking a guess here, but I could be right

I get EXACTLY the same thing at the same time ! I also get tearful with it ...

I started to take evening primrose oil and it helped however if I forget then I am off again !

I am pretty sure its a hormonal thing, I would pop along to your Dr they may be able to give you a suppliment or at least advise you on what to take.

Hi Googley,

I wish I had some advice. But, yes, I know just what you mean. I'm so sorry this lasts for so long for you. I don't always get it but sometimes get this for a single day along with PMS. Pure anger describes it. I feel like I could break into a fist fight with anyone at any moment. I don't think PMDD is the same for everyone...

I get similar things. I get irritable, moody. And I get mad at my boyfriend REALLY easily. He keeps reminding me I'm about to be on my period and to calm down T.T and then I feel like an idiot. You're not alone... letting people know is generally a good idea I've found, if you're comfortable enough with them

I know for me it is hormonal b/c that is when it spikes for me, not just irritable but quite angry. Going onto bc pills for another issue had helped this by lessening it, so now I'm just slightly irritable beforehand and the first few days; Then by being aware of it, I can stop it in it's tracks and tread lightly those days taking special care around others. I have to walk away when I catch myself getting into a tirade and take a moment to calm down to catch my breath and using rational thoughts to balance the emotion. Sometimes damage repair for the relationship comes in then too if wasn't stopped in time. I don't know any other way to handle this but I can definitely sympathize.

Birth control pills helped flatten out the mood symptoms around my period. Becoming aware of when my symptoms would come made it easier to do things like reminding myself not to rip the heads off of the jerks that pissed me off....

Honestly ...if the timeframe is generally correlating with your cycle I would reconsider that all the criteria aren't necessary.I have pmdd...If you EVER see me act upset...re:temper...it is pms/pmdd related.I am not a doctor obviously...But try this....keep a journal ...a super simple one...where you set up a mood /dot system...like happy...1 dot...wee moody...2 dot...excetera...(how you want it to be...)and daily b4 bed ...dot the calendar.....Take this to your doc.I KNOW I have pmdd.And for me specifically...water retention in the time prior .....puts pressure on the brain causing confusion...I use an otc water pill...I also find that calcium deficiency plays a notable part...so I use calcium chews....and I cut waaay back on salt .That is what helps me personally...also exercise in any form....~W~I love the other replies here too.