Wants Another Baby

i dont know why but all of a sudden i want to get pregnant again why is this happening to me

i have made an appointment to get my implant taken out and am planning to fall pregnant behind my partners back

is this wrong why am i feeling this way

Jazzy going to be blunt here. I went back and read your past 6-10 most recent posts. reading them tells me your hormones are probably still out of whack from having your 6 month old child you now have. your past posts also told me you are on antidepressants for depression and just a few months ago went through a time where you didnt want to have anything to do with your baby you have now because he had been crying and such..

heres where Im going yo be blunt.. if you cant handle the hard times with the under 1 yr old baby you have now how do you expect to be able to handle a new born and the baby you have now at the same time. the baby you have now wont be two yet wont be potty trained yet, crying alot, entering the temper tantrum stages, making huge messes, getting into everything because he will be crawling and walking all over the place, the problem of this baby you have now crying and you not wanting to have anything to do with it willbe the stages that you will be dealing with, with the new baby. you will be dealing with crying from both babies. your depression, your hormones being out of whack from being pregnant and having a baby on top of your hormones and moods not back to normal now from having the baby you have now...

I think you already know you are not ready to have another baby.. now lets talk about the behind your partners back.. what a way for a baby to come into this world.. with one parent plotting behind their partners back to get preg and the other resenting and feeling mistrustful of the one going behind their back..

the fact that you are even considering going behind your partners back and having the implant taken out tells me theres something wrong here with this relationship.. add a baby to it adds stress on both partners now add one partner plotting to get pregnant behind the others back is more than a lot of relationships can take. heck having a baby in a completely committed and harmonious relationship taxes both partners stress levels and health at times..

again I think you already know bringing another baby into the world by going behind your partners back is not the right thing to do..

that said your feelings of wanting another baby while the one you have is young is sort of instinctual for women. a womans body automatically gives them the physical ability to have a baby every 28-30 days. along with that comes cravings and yearnings for sex, chocolate, or other foods, nesting/cleaning and all that, and yearning to have a baby mentally. most women are able to combat the yearnings for a baby by knowing they are too young, not financially stable, not the right time mentally all kinds of logical reasons. But sometimes when a womans hormones, and other reasons are out of whack its hard to battle those baby/the clock is ticking yearnings.. the feeling is probably very strong in you right now because you just had one baby 6 months ago.. so physically and mentally your body and mind are not in tune with each other yet..

Another thing to think about most people who have babies close in age usually a year to two yrs apart do ok but there are situations where having babies close together can cause problems with the mother and baby. Right now I have a client who is a single dad dealing with two children under 2 yrs old because his wife while giving birth to their youngest ended up having a stroke. she had no pre existing health problems. having a baby so close to the first one caused her heart to stop on the delivery table. they were able to get it started back up but not before her body went into convulsions and stroke. shes now in a nursing home learning how to talk walk feed herself and all that while her husband is raising their two children. and holding down a full time job. if you do get pregnant so soon there may be complications and how will your partner feel about raising two children one of which could be the cause of your becoming incapable of caring for your children.

the way you are feeling isnt wrong but the way you are planning on dealing with it may end up being the wrong way to do it for you..

talk with your partner and your doctors. let them know how you are feeling and let your partner have their say too.. after all the new baby will be theirs to love and care for too..

another way to think about it.. would you want your partner to make life altering decisions that affect you behind your back for example what if your partner came home today and said guess what hon I have an appointment with the realators/landlord because Im going to sell the house/ give my notice and we are moving half way across the world.. would you rather be a part in making the decisions for what happens in your family as a family unit..

give your partner your respect and trust by talking this out with them.

I'm curious why you want to do this behind your partners back, IMO it should be a joint decision.

Children's talent to endure stems from their ignorance of alternatives.
~ Maya Angelou

thankyou for that response i had come to almost every conclusion that you had stated there i do appreciate the time that you spent looking into it and if i do come across these feelings again i will re read over this post as it is a way to help me process my thoughts

I do understand that you would like to have another baby. The calls of motherhood can be very strong.

However, I don't think that doing so behind your partner's back would be a good idea. It can and will cause havoc on your relationship, especially if he knows you have that implant and then you turn up pregnant. He's going to feel mighty betrayed. You don't want to raise kiddos when your relationship is shaky.

Have you discussed this with your partner?

Also spacing babies out a bit more is healthier for your poor body! Pregnancy is rough on the body. Let it heal up and get stronger again. =)