50 shades of gray? Your opinion

LiteraryLark · Nov 25, 2012 at 07:22 PM

There were some good parts that got me tingly, and there were some BDSM terms I didn't know, but the fantasy could have been so much more.

Big Mama · Nov 25, 2012 at 08:20 PM

I read far more saucy books. The sex parts left out way way to much. The writing was not great but I'm not a good writer either so it didn't bother me. I'm dyslexic and ADD so I thought it was just me and my reading skills. Glad to know my ability to understand what I read is not getting worse. It was a good book to kill time w/ enough spark to keep you thinking enough to pick the book up at a later point.

bastetsha · Dec 01, 2012 at 07:18 AM

I read the trilogy. Not the best books I have read before but I liked them enough. My mom got me to read them, which was kind of awkward. I noticed a lot similar with Twilight but I used to read tons of fanfiction in my teens so that wasn't so bad.

Big Mama · Dec 01, 2012 at 12:48 PM

EEK. You mom gave it to you that must have been weird. I don't think I would give them to my mom to read. I don't want to even go there w/ my mom. My T suggested the books actually. As a adding spice to life in a small way kinda thing. Not just about sex but how to give whole heartedly to one another in the things you do, gifts you buy, places you do and things you say in person via e - mail or phone. It was a good example of that.

bastetsha · Dec 01, 2012 at 01:25 PM

Yep, she sure did. It was beyond awkward. They actually got me back to reading more (I had been too depressed to read much) and now I am always with my kindle so I guess thanks to my mom.

Maven · Dec 02, 2012 at 04:59 AM

Tell your mom I want a Kindle Fire. Christmas is coming.

bastetsha · Dec 02, 2012 at 07:32 AM

will tell. It was the best present I had received in a long time.

(and yes 50 shades trilogy is on it)

Big Mama · Dec 02, 2012 at 01:27 PM

Who knew 50 shades would be suggested by a T. My boys are getting a kindle for Xmas. I will not suggest they read that though. (12, & 15 are there ages though)

Maven · Dec 04, 2012 at 03:08 AM

Yeah, for teen boys, you probably should start them with about 5 shades of grey.

Big Mama · Dec 04, 2012 at 08:57 AM

Thank you Maven, I laughed 15 min after I got up and I am NOT a morning person. Teen age boys sheesh. They have minds and hormones all there own. Maybe the 0 shades of gray.

bebop · Dec 05, 2012 at 04:07 PM

well I thought it was a good fantasy series. I know it is not real and didn't look for it to be true stories. I rather enjoyed the love story aspect of the book.

Maven · Dec 06, 2012 at 02:21 AM

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Thank you Maven, I laughed 15 min after I got up and I am NOT a morning person. Teen age boys sheesh. They have minds and hormones all there own. Maybe the 0 shades of gray.

You have a point! Have you seen the video of that kid at a sports event who is very clearly in puberty...and I kind of want to smack him. I know boys are like that because of hormones, but I hate when a guy (or a boy) looks at women as nothing but boobs, *** and genitals. I find I just have this sudden dislike of the person, because they aren't valuing a woman for her whole self. Granted, sometimes the women are dressed to show off those specific assets, and I'm okay with that, but I still think a man shouldn't drool over a woman and act like a pervert.

Here's the video:

Big Mama · Dec 06, 2012 at 08:58 AM

Wow. What a video. Never seen that one before. At church in the teenage class we talk alot to the kids about the clothes you wear and what they say about you. What are you advertising. Boobs and butts, shirts w/ rude comments, even shirts w/ christian slogans, what you wear says alot about you. Be prepared to pay a price for what you wear. Be Prepared to answer Q's about chirstianity then your inappropriate behaviors. Your to much skin and what you are selling. What ever.

On a lighter note one of my boys is girl crazy, the 12 yr old, and the other is truck crazy the 15 yr old.

Maven · Dec 07, 2012 at 04:42 AM

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Wow. What a video. Never seen that one before. At church in the teenage class we talk alot to the kids about the clothes you wear and what they say about you. What are you advertising. Boobs and butts, shirts w/ rude comments, even shirts w/ christian slogans, what you wear says alot about you. Be prepared to pay a price for what you wear. Be Prepared to answer Q's about chirstianity then your inappropriate behaviors. Your to much skin and what you are selling. What ever.

Very true. I don't think wearing sexy clothes means a person is a "slut" or anything negative, but you have to expect people's judgments, whether you agree with them or not. That doesn't mean you shouldn't wear what you want to wear (I sometimes wear shirts that reflect my sense of humor, my opinions, my beliefs, etc.), but don't be surprised if someone has something to say about it. Best to be prepared to say something right back!

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On a lighter note one of my boys is girl crazy, the 12 yr old, and the other is truck crazy the 15 yr old.

Put'em together and they like girl trucks!

Big Mama · Dec 07, 2012 at 02:12 PM

That is exactly what we talked about at church. Be ready to give an explanation of what you are advertising be it the lord, alcohol, sex, what ever. Know that it comes w/ the territory. An explanation may be necessary so have one ready. I like this skirt, this is my fav. shirt, I don't drink but I like the shirt, what ever. Some forlks might not like what you have to share, but like my H says "opinions are like but*****es we all have one and some stink more then others" Not a nice quote but a true quote.

Maven · Dec 08, 2012 at 04:18 AM

Exactly, Big Mama. On an episode of The Simpsons, Homer is looking at a woman with large breasts, looking directly at the breasts. The woman says, "My eyes are up here." Homer replies, "I've made my choice."

Hala401 · Aug 27, 2013 at 01:45 AM

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It seems the world is all a buzz over the book "The 50 Shades of Gray". I could not figure out what the big deal was. I also could not afford to go to a book store and buy the book. So I went to the library and put my mane on the waiting list. I was 87th on the list. So I figured by the time that book arrive I'd be 10 years older and have forgotten about it. Just in case, I didn't take my name off the waiting list. The book finially came this week.

I have been so busy lately I forgot how good it felt to unwind w/ a good book. It's so much better then the computer. The feel of paper on your fingers and the sound of a page turning it's so wonderful.

But after reading this book I realize what the big deal is. EEEKKK!!!!!! I THINK I LIKE IT. It does explain alot of "out there " kinda things and make it seem not so much out there. I had heard of the term vanilla but had no idea what that ment. I think my opinion of not so vanilla things have not changed alot. I still don't think those are things I want to participate in. But the reading material certinly is interesting.

I don't have a real Q i guess. I am just excited to be able to experience reading a book, holding it and touching the pages again. It is a lost art.

Has anyone else read this book or series? I'm on book 2 and have book 3 on hold. Do you have an opinion on these books.

I survived really, really hellish abuse as a child and I thought that his reaction to his own trauma was realistic; so much so that I sort of had a combination melt down and healing time.

That she would put up with him and his "50 shades" was surprising, and it felt good that someone would really try to see through all his BS and see the real him.

Over the years, I have healed enough that I would enjoy playful games, including a bit of kink. I think the trillogy was really crafty.

Big Mama · Aug 27, 2013 at 08:17 PM

I to was a victim of sexual abuse, and a lot of the parts of that book I could not read. I had many panic attacks while reading it, but I couldn't seem to put the book down. I did read it all and it gave me some ideas in how to maintain control in the bed room and how to use safe words. This opened up a line of communication with my T ,and we were able to talk about soft limits and hard limits. It also gave her a better idea of what I had been threw, because I knew if she read it then she didn't have virgin ears and neither did I.

Edda · Sep 05, 2013 at 04:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Hala401

I survived really, really hellish abuse as a child and I thought that his reaction to his own trauma was realistic; so much so that I sort of had a combination melt down and healing time.

That she would put up with him and his "50 shades" was surprising, and it felt good that someone would really try to see through all his BS and see the real him.

Over the years, I have healed enough that I would enjoy playful games, including a bit of kink. I think the trillogy was really crafty.

Ok, I feel I really need to chip in here.

Beside the fact that the text is so painfully crap to the point of being almost unreadable, the major sin of 50 shades is exactly this; making people believe that you have to be completely f****d up to be a dominant or a submissive.

This is absolutely NOT the case. The bdsm, D/s world is extremely wide and varied and for many, this is simply their sexuality, no more no less. Many people who identify somewhere along this spectrum are perfectly capable of forming loving and lasting relationships. The fact that they are dominant or submissive does not mean that they are ill or that their sexuality is a reaction to some unspeakable childhood trauma.

That said, the dynamic between the dominant and the submissive is immensely powerful and if abused, can cause/trigger major mental health issues.

I think the only redeeming factor of 50 shades is making the subject of D/s relationships less of a taboo.

Well, OK, there were also a few quite good scenes in the books.

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LiteraryLark Crowned "The Good Witch" Member Since Jun 2009 Location: Wonderland Posts: 11,536 (SuperPoster!) 15 1,318 hugs given	Nov 25, 2012 at 07:22 PM #21 There were some good parts that got me tingly, and there were some BDSM terms I didn't know, but the fantasy could have been so much more.

bastetsha Grand Member Member Since Nov 2012 Location: Tennessee Posts: 883 11 57 hugs given	Dec 01, 2012 at 07:18 AM #23 I read the trilogy. Not the best books I have read before but I liked them enough. My mom got me to read them, which was kind of awkward. I noticed a lot similar with Twilight but I used to read tons of fanfiction in my teens so that wasn't so bad.

bastetsha Grand Member Member Since Nov 2012 Location: Tennessee Posts: 883 11 57 hugs given	Dec 01, 2012 at 01:25 PM #25 Yep, she sure did. It was beyond awkward. They actually got me back to reading more (I had been too depressed to read much) and now I am always with my kindle so I guess thanks to my mom.

Maven Pirate Goddess Member Since Oct 2005 Location: South Jersey, USA Posts: 5,246 19 513 hugs given	Dec 02, 2012 at 04:59 AM #26 Tell your mom I want a Kindle Fire. Christmas is coming. __________________ Maven If I had a dollar for every time I got distracted, I wish I had some ice cream. Equal Rights Are Not Special Rights

bastetsha Grand Member Member Since Nov 2012 Location: Tennessee Posts: 883 11 57 hugs given	Dec 02, 2012 at 07:32 AM #27 will tell. It was the best present I had received in a long time. (and yes 50 shades trilogy is on it)

Big Mama Magnate Member Since Jun 2012 Location: Virginia Posts: 2,191 12 646 hugs given	Dec 02, 2012 at 01:27 PM #28 Who knew 50 shades would be suggested by a T. My boys are getting a kindle for Xmas. I will not suggest they read that though. (12, & 15 are there ages though)

Maven Pirate Goddess Member Since Oct 2005 Location: South Jersey, USA Posts: 5,246 19 513 hugs given	Dec 04, 2012 at 03:08 AM #29 Yeah, for teen boys, you probably should start them with about 5 shades of grey. __________________ Maven If I had a dollar for every time I got distracted, I wish I had some ice cream. Equal Rights Are Not Special Rights

Big Mama Magnate Member Since Jun 2012 Location: Virginia Posts: 2,191 12 646 hugs given	Dec 04, 2012 at 08:57 AM #30 Thank you Maven, I laughed 15 min after I got up and I am NOT a morning person. Teen age boys sheesh. They have minds and hormones all there own. Maybe the 0 shades of gray.

bebop Legendary Member Since Oct 2004 Location: Ga Posts: 13,936 20 34 hugs given	Dec 05, 2012 at 04:07 PM #31 well I thought it was a good fantasy series. I know it is not real and didn't look for it to be true stories. I rather enjoyed the love story aspect of the book. __________________ He who angers you controls you!

Maven Pirate Goddess Member Since Oct 2005 Location: South Jersey, USA Posts: 5,246 19 513 hugs given	Dec 08, 2012 at 04:18 AM #36 Exactly, Big Mama. On an episode of The Simpsons, Homer is looking at a woman with large breasts, looking directly at the breasts. The woman says, "My eyes are up here." Homer replies, "I've made my choice." __________________ Maven If I had a dollar for every time I got distracted, I wish I had some ice cream. Equal Rights Are Not Special Rights