[GirlOfManyFaces]

I took a pregnancy test round dec 20... Negative... But I have every reason to believe I am pregnant. I'm SO SCARED!

I'm either pregnant... Or VERY VERY ill.

Cramps, nausea, lost apatite, dizzy, tired, headache, vomity feeling, weird dreams, heart burn, indigestion, cravings, feeling bigger than normal, bigger boobs, tender nipples ......

HELP ME!!!

(I'm only 14)
I don't want this to be a rape baby....

[sugahorse1]

Have you had sex or been raped that would lead you to believe this?
Have you had your period since 20 December?

[GirlOfManyFaces]

Originally Posted by sugahorse1

Have you had sex or been raped that would lead you to believe this?
Have you had your period since 20 December?

I was raped...and I can't remember if I had my period.

[Big Mama]

It does sound like preg. symptoms. but period symptoms to. Take another test or keep waiting. You have to start some time.

I don't want you to have a rape baby either. But as a preschool teacher I have met a few rape babies and guess what they are just as sweet and special as any other baby. It's all in how you choose to see it. I had the sweetest little girl in my class. Her mom was raped. She was a single mom ofcourse. How she coped blew me away. She knew I was aware of the situation and she pulled me aside and told me you know that man gave me the greatest gift ever. I don't see his face when I look at her, I see the gift that "Mary" is in my life. Now I have someone who loves me. Unconditional love. She was right you know. She had struggles as a teenager w/ her parents. She choose a good way to look at things. I think T help her lots. Her little one has T to. She doesn't want anything to go wrong w/ the rasing of this child. 5 yr olds can have T to.

[yellowted]

hey big mama talks sense!
it is all about how you look at things, i was a preschool teacher too and likewise have seen my fair share of rape babies, and they are just as loving as any other child.
saying that at 14 you still have a lot of growing yourself to do, so please get checked out by a doctor, because rape or not your body may struggle to adapt to the trials of pregnancy and more so to giving birth.

[GirlOfManyFaces]

Thanks you guys. I'm just really scared. If I am preg. I will love him/her to the ends of the earth. A few people who know have told me I should abort it if I find out I am preg. I just want to point out that abortion will never be an option!
I pray for the best. But it doesn't help the sick and pain feelings... And the fear.

Big mamma, it's not the same as PMS feelings tho :/ that's why I'm extra nervous

[Big Mama]

Well then you do have cause to be nervous. It is typicially 8 to 10 weeks along in a pregnancy before you start having morning sickness. So keep that in mind when trying to figure out dates and such.

I really hope abortion is not an option. Rape is wrong, abortion is murder. There are so many people out there who want a child and can't have one. Adoption is always an option. Open adoption you could be a part of this childs life potentially. or closed adoption and put the child in good hands and trust in that. or as you know keep the baby. It is part of you.

In a perfect world, it's stress and worry delaying nature and giving you crazy symptoms. Keep us posted. You should test asap though.

Yellow is right. There are extra things a young person like yourself need to be prepared for. There are certin nutritional requirements, sleep requirements, and special dilevery plans to make.

[GirlOfManyFaces]

Originally Posted by Big Mama

Well then you do have cause to be nervous. It is typicially 8 to 10 weeks along in a pregnancy before you start having morning sickness. So keep that in mind when trying to figure out dates and such.

I really hope abortion is not an option. Rape is wrong, abortion is murder. There are so many people out there who want a child and can't have one. Adoption is always an option. Open adoption you could be a part of this childs life potentially. or closed adoption and put the child in good hands and trust in that. or as you know keep the baby. It is part of you.

In a perfect world, it's stress and worry delaying nature and giving you crazy symptoms. Keep us posted. You should test asap though.

Yellow is right. There are extra things a young person like yourself need to be prepared for. There are certin nutritional requirements, sleep requirements, and special dilevery plans to make.

I would be right at 8.5 weeks along O_O

. I will have to think more on the future plans...

I will keep everyone posted.

Thank you for everything. It has really helped!

[ickydog2006]

Just wanted ro say Im thinking of you. A test should definitely come up positive by now if you are. Is there a pregnancy center where you live? They usually have free tests and are very kind and nonjudgmental. Gas your period been bormal up to this point. All of those symptoms could be from puberty and stress. Plus at that age it's perfectly normal to not be having regular cycles. Hope things get figure out soon.

[GirlOfManyFaces]

Originally Posted by ickydog2006

Just wanted ro say Im thinking of you. A test should definitely come up positive by now if you are. Is there a pregnancy center where you live? They usually have free tests and are very kind and nonjudgmental. Gas your period been bormal up to this point. All of those symptoms could be from puberty and stress. Plus at that age it's perfectly normal to not be having regular cycles. Hope things get figure out soon.

I can't remember if I've had my period yet. I don't know of a pregnancy center anywhere close. But I will look around. I hope I figure it out too.

Thank you bunches!

[Maven]

Good luck with whatever happens. I don't feel abortion is murder, but I can understand not wanting to have one. If you are indeed pregnant, I wish you a healthy, happy baby!

[tarmyg]

You need to reach out to a trusted adult..... maybe the school nurse, counselor, aunt, cousin..... etc.?

[googley]

I am so sorry you were raped. If you are pregnant you need to find out as soon as possible. You will need prenatal care if you are, to make sure that the baby and you are okay. The right vitamins and prenatal care is important for both you and the baby if you are pregnant. I know that it is hard to talk to your parents, but they are going to find out one way or the other, so I would suggest letting them know if you are pregnant. You will need their help and support.

[nicoleb2]

Originally Posted by Big Mama

Rape is wrong, abortion is murder.

I just wanted to point out that not everyone believes this, and saying it just like that can be VERY hurtful to women who have had to make that choice.

[GirlOfManyFaces]

Originally Posted by nicoleb2

I just wanted to point out that not everyone believes this, and saying it just like that can be VERY hurtful to women who have had to make that choice.

I hate to sound rude, but abortion is murder.

Murder means to stop a living thing's heart beat.

Abortion is stopping the heart beat of an innocent baby.

I'm sorry to those who had to make that choice. But abortion is just not the loving option.

God bless.

[Big Mama]

I would like to take a moment to apologize to anyone who I may have offended w/ my opinion of abortion. It is only my opinion. The good thing about living in the united stated is the opportunity to free speech.

The wonderful thing is that the Lord forgives and the Lord understands. The Lord loves us all regardless or lies, adultery, stealing, and so many other things.

I am not judging anyone who has had to make this difficult life decision. No one makes this kind of decision and takes it lightly. It is a horrible position to be in.

I want to express my deepest apologies to Maven, I respect your opinion and you have been so much help to me, and to nichole2 I have seen you around, I don't no you but still I did not mean to offend.

There are people who have had to have abortions, been forced into abortion, chose abortion to save there life, chose abortion to spare another person a life of heartache down the road. I have never had to make that decision and hope I never do. I do not envy anyone who has had to make that choice. Some of my dearest friends have had to make that difficult choice and it has not changed the course of our friendship. It is a very personal decision, but so is life.

Sorry to anyone I may have hurt.

[RomanSunburn]

Thank you, Big Mama, for your heartfelt apology. I truly, truly appreciate the gesture. I also haven't had to make that decision, but I agree, we should not be making a bad situation worse for those who have had to make the decision.

I would also like to say this is not the place for a political discussion (and sadly, this issue is very politicized, which breaks my heart. Why anyone should tell anyone else what to do with their bodies is beyond me...). Everyone is allowed to have their own opinion, but I think we should all take care how we express them and not close our hearts to those that disagree with us. GirlOfManyFaces, you are allowed to have your own opinion, and you are allowed to not consider abortion an option for yourself. But it is not for you to say what is wrong for you is wrong for all. I hope we can all continue to support you, but please keep polarizing comments such as the one you made for a different forum than PC.

I hope this message was not offensive to anyone. I just felt the need to say my peace, and hope that from here on, this thread can go back to being the supportive place is was, instead of creating a war zone.



GirlOfManyFaces, I hope you are able to find someone you feel comfortable talking with and are able to get a blood test done to determine whether or not you are pregnant. Is your mom at all supportive? The sooner you can do this, the better, because then you will know what is in your future, and whether or not you need to start taking steps for the health of you and your possible baby.

[GirlOfManyFaces]

Originally Posted by RomanSunburn

GirlOfManyFaces, I hope you are able to find someone you feel comfortable talking with and are able to get a blood test done to determine whether or not you are pregnant. Is your mom at all supportive? The sooner you can do this, the better, because then you will know what is in your future, and whether or not you need to start taking steps for the health of you and your possible baby.

My mother is somewhat supportive. Se was always "the perfect child". So she doesn't understand. She blames me for the situation I was in. And she blames me for the rape. So she is not supportive in that way.

The more time goes on the more I feel I am pregnant. I'm WITHOUT A DOUBT getting bigger. Even when I suck in my tummy still isn't as small as it was.

IM REALLY SCARED!

[Big Mama]

girlofmanyfaces you really need to go and get a test or go to the Dr, health dept, even a school counselor could get a test for you. You gotta find out what is going on. It is the utmost importance. You have to take care of you and that baby if you are preg. If you are you are gonna be a mommy. Being a mommy starts before that baby is born, It starts as soon as conception. Love this baby that may be inside of you like no one loved you or like you want to be loved. Don't ignore this potential child ever, not now or later. Give it a love even while it is growing inside you. Even babies in utero know love and hate and confusion and stress. Every hormone you posess has a potential to change a baby's life and make a personality that will affect it forever.

Go find out. Hugs dear, please keep us updated and keep talking to us and your T.

[GirlOfManyFaces]

Originally Posted by Big Mama

girlofmanyfaces you really need to go and get a test or go to the Dr, health dept, even a school counselor could get a test for you. You gotta find out what is going on. It is the utmost importance. You have to take care of you and that baby if you are preg. If you are you are gonna be a mommy. Being a mommy starts before that baby is born, It starts as soon as conception. Love this baby that may be inside of you like no one loved you or like you want to be loved. Don't ignore this potential child ever, not now or later. Give it a love even while it is growing inside you. Even babies in utero know love and hate and confusion and stress. Every hormone you posess has a potential to change a baby's life and make a personality that will affect it forever.

Go find out. Hugs dear, please keep us updated and keep talking to us and your T.

Thank you SO MUCH! I really needed someone to tell me that. I think the only support I've gotten has been from everyone here at PC. My dad just straight up said he isn't going to help me with anything and I have to support myself. He said I could work for him though. (What a loving father...NOT)

Big Mama, you don't have to worry about me loving the child. If she/he is in there, they will be the most loved child on earth. No doubt.

I've had enough suffering. And I'm going to speak up to my mom and ask to get a blood test.

Thank you for everything