What's the worst part about being single? How do you cope being alone.

((((PlantinumHeart)))) I know what you mean by connection. I still talk to my ex too, and he's still a reliable friend. The connection with him was/is "off the charts." Never had that before and don't see it very likely again.

It's hard to let go of him, I know what you mean. I guess it doesn't help that I'm so attached to his cats that I come visit them now & then (of course, I "see" him also since he lives there, LOL). Recently, I thought he was engaged, then found it was off. I was relieved.

I also love having my pets around, but it would be nice to have a human to come home to.

When I broke up with my ex just over a year and a half ago I loved being single. But over time it has become very lonely. Getting sick is the worst for me. That's when I feel the most alone.

My ex always used to make me laugh, and I think I miss that since I fell into this depression.

I've been on dates but haven't found someone that I can see myself with, which makes me feel more lonely. Almost as if I have had my chances.

I try to keep busy and spend time with friends and family, but it just makes me sad because they are all in happy relationships and I end up feeling like the odd one out.

The worse part of being single is the toilet part I bought sitting next to the broken toilet waiting for ME to repair it.

The hose & sprayer sitting next to the kitchen sink waiting for ME to repair it.

The wheel sitting next to the wagon waiting for me to repair it.

The closets that don't have any place to hang cloths until I install the parts so I can have a REAL closet.

The grass that grows as tall as my lawn tractor waiting for ME to mow & thanking my neighbor beyond all thanks for offering to bush hog my fields.

Thanking the neighbor farm's hired help for helping me pull down the dead branch in my black walnut tree & then taking the clippers & cutting down all the low branches while I hauled them to my brush pile.

While everything piles up & I really feel like just going to bed & covering myself with a blanket & getting the sleep I very seldom get because of my stressing about NOT getting things done.

The company I had when married isn't something I miss because most was nothing but fighting....but I'm sure if I found someone who wasn't like my STBXH......it might be a pleasant experience.....but I would never hold my breath or even really want to desire something I don't think would ever be possible....I look at what I have & make the best of it & focus on all the good I am surrounded by....which is so much more than I had when I was married.

I miss hugs. I miss having support when I'm losing it. But, I like my space. I don't miss sharing my quiet time. There are trade offs. I try to remind myself of the positives of being single. Every cloud has a silver lining, sometimes it's hard to see.

I miss having another person to talk to, but I have issues in that I only want them when I want them, and then I want them to go away. That is why chat forums are helpful to me...I can be giving and caring and then before I get overwhelmed I can just leave the site.

I do miss horribly, not having a man to snuggle with me, not to mention make love to. That's the hardest part, and no pillow can take the place of one.

I'm not looking for a replacement, but it is very difficult to look forward, when backward keeps poking me in the side, reminding me of the good times, the warm times, the times of love.

I just want to love someone. Is that too much to ask?
25 years of being turned away or held at arm's length. Even by animals...so it's not like I can even go get a pet to love. Maybe it's wrong to look for a significant other to love too...but I can't just get a pet, have a child (as that would be VERY irresponsible), or connect with friends or family on that level as it's way too intense.

I don't know how to cope.

I miss falling asleep in the arms of someone I love. Will I ever get that opportunity again?

I totally understand you. However, I think I feel like the odd one out, not because I feel sad that I'm one of the few single people around.. but I feel like other people are expecting me not to be single. Or think I'm somehow defunct.. even though I may actually choose on purpose to be single. That's the part that's kind like... "ouch" sometimes

just make up to men, between you and me, they will fall over backwards to help you. Aside from that men: you can't do without them and you can't do with them. I adore men, but I'm so socially awkward No one will date me.

Guys i have been there, and yes its easy to fall into a pity party but you need to be your own best friend, love yourself and your company and basically enjoy your freedom. It is good to treat yourself sometimes and just enjoy yourself. You could get involved in some social group that will help you feel better about yourself, and most times it is through this medium life lasting friendships and relationships are started, having people with the same interests as you creates a bond that last a lifetime.

If a woman wants a partner, she wants a partner. There is no substitute for it.

Have a career, be a social butterfly, adopt a pet, adopt a child, etc. but that doesn't replace a partner.

"Apples and oranges."

My last cat passed away 2 weeks ago. She had already retreated for a while. Not having that company stinks. I don't mind doing things alone just would like the company. I won't be getting anymore for a while as I want to travel more. I've gotten used to traveling solo. Sometimes I'd like somebody but there are bonuses.

I miss hugs the most.

Wanting a partner doesn't mean you're needy.

Pity party for what? I was just asking how people cope with being alone. It's one thing for me to not have a steady partner, but I can't even get to go out or meet men. I don't get this world sometimes.

The worst part about being single?
~ I really miss the bond that we'd be together, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, 'til death do we part.
~ Holding one another as we fall asleep, spooning...that physical & emotional closeness is what I miss dearly.

How do I cope with being alone?
~ Honestly... and shoot me if you must.. but, I avoid being alone. I am scared! He is all that I have emotionally and physically. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 1/2 years, and I've recently recognized that he and I are just too different from one another to somehow make it work. Our relationship is also complicated by the children that I've had with my ex-hub.
~ Healthy tips that do help me become a stronger woman, individually, is keeping fit. I go to the YMCA regularly for work-outs. Also working p/t, to get some interaction with other people.
~ I am trying. But, it isn't an overnight change!

Sleeping alone, not having someone who you can talk to, the feeling of knowing you are loved, friendship

I've been single for about 7 years...I have a strong fear based, but sensible, reason for not letting anyone closer. My children. I am convinced that the risk of letting someone in to fill that father role is too much. I can't handle the thought of them being hurt by losing a father again.
At first my anger and bitterness toward the father of my children was motivating enough for me, every single damn thing in life was a reminder of what he did, and the thought of being intimate with another man was torturous. I roled up my sleeves and put on an independant brave face to deal with all that was left.
Therefore, by burying my feelings in work, and taking care of day to day things, I rarely had time to contemplate the memories and the lonely times.
But we all know, there is the times when there is nothing, and no one, and no hiding.
At those times I eventually learned to just give into those feelings, to feel sad or lonely if I wanted to. It never lasts forever, maybe an hour or two, put on a sad movie and cry...this is where I am now. These are my choices, to protect and respect myself and my kids. To me it looks like this. And little by little, every day turns into a week turns into a month, turns into my life now.
This is certainly not what every single mom faces, some are desperate for someone anyone, but we know how that can end.
I refuse to be one of those...I'm learning all I can about myself and my choices, and you know, I'm strong now.
I can't say how many times my pillow was wet with tears, but, I can say it isn't anymore. It all passes, and the trade off is worth it.
I would rather have my life without being under the thumb of a tyrant, or a sociopath as I was when I was married.
Everyone says- "Oh, you'll meet someone when the time is right", and for me thats been about never. But maybe I'll be alone forever. And you know what, thats okay right now.
This probably didn't help you feel less anxious about being single, I realize how just the thought of being alone can lead some people fishing for another mate, but, if you don't know how to take care of yourself yet...it probably means, you aren't ready to be a healthy partner, or you may attract someone who wants to control.
Just learn what you need to learn how to do it...you'll get to where you need to be.

I've never been in a relationship. I think the hardest part is just wondering what I'm missing. Whenever I say that, people just laugh and say "you aren't missing much! Men suck and relationships are hard", but I must be missing something otherwise no one would bother being in a relationship.

It's hard to wonder what it must feel like to be held and have someone say they love you. It's hard not knowing what that must be like and wondering what it feels like to be loved.

It's hard sitting around with other women and they all start laughing about something involving relationships and I just laugh too even though I have no idea what they are talking about. It's hard being the one that everyone goes to for relationship advice but having no real experience to talk about.

It's hard to watch my friends starting to talk about marriage and I'm still wondering when I'll have my first kiss or hold a guy's hand. It's hard to listen to people talk about their crazy sexual escapades when I feel like I'll never get a guy to want to do that stuff with me.

This one will sound weird, but it's hard listening to people talk about their ex when I've never had anyone would could have become an ex. I mean, having someone at some point in your life want you enough to say he wants to be with you and you alone? That idea is amazing to me. Like it's weird enough to think about two people actually both liking each other. And then these people have found more than one person to like them back? Enough to have an ex or two? I wish I had history with someone.

But it's just the way things are. I don't usually feel sad about it because I have tons of my own issues to work out. I'm not ready to be in a healthy relationship and I'm scared of intimacy.

Getting used to being alone.

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I'm in a whole other category than most of you. I've been single / alone most of my life. Only had like three boyfriends, all short lived. I've always been independent, doing most things for myself. But because of my severe depression, it makes it so very hard to even meet any possible bfs.

What do I dislike about being single...
Not having anyone! I'm the only single person in my family. So when we all get together, and there are 11 total, I am alone. Weddings and birthdays and parties and just going out for fun, I hate it cuz I am always all alone - no one there with me.
There's no one to talk to, no one to make me smile or laugh, and no one to be there for you when you are sick or hurt. There's no one to cheer you up when you're sad, and no one to help you through those rough and tough times. There's no one to 'know' (ya know, you can see it on a person's face) when you're not alright and is right there for you (and with you). Yeah, it gets very lonely at times.
And as for the kissing and sex, can't really say I miss it cuz never really had it to begin with.

I live alone on a farm. And my cats help with the companionship some, but they are outdoors. But I love the wide open space and the freedom of not having a neighbor 25ft from you at all times. (I can vacuum at 2am if I feel like it, and I have at times)