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I do things like mow the lawn (which takes about five hours), trim trees and bushes, tend to the flowers around the house, fix the wooden fences around the farmsite, and more. I've actually gotten to be pretty 'handy' over the last 15 years. I can build shelves (I have one in the garage that is about 7ft x 3 1/2ft), build storage bins, fix the lawn mower, do maintenance on my car (I change my own oil), and things like that. There is not too much a person can't do with a hammer, pliers, adjustable wrench, and a drill!! |
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Location: Foothills, where I belong
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#82
I agree with all the lonliness related stuff. When I was married I was more lonely. But that is another story.
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I too cope with being alone by avoiding it. I was married 21 years and had two kids so I got quite used to having company, then at 50---all of them gone! Kids to school, husband onto a new life seeking a new partner. So, I entered into a relationship with a man that seemed promising---but with children from our former marriages and being very different from one another---he wants to live alone, I want to live with him, we are just seeking something different. Because I've currently only have one friend and she lives on the west coast and I'm in the east, I just hang on because something is better than nothing. I don't think being alone as much as I am is healthy. I'm a social animal, but at 55 I don't meet any women who want to form new friendships---most women my age seem to be married or with someone and that's their primary friend, or they have friends they've had for eons and don't need any more. I have tried bookgroups, church, work, and other venues to meet people, but in a small town in a rural area, there just aren't many people around. My long term plan to cope is to move to a big city. I'd be interested in hearing if anyone's done that and how it's working out. But what I keenly need is support to leave my relationship---I've tried but I can't function having no one to talk with or be with. I get so anxious I can barely work, drive, eat, talk. I'm seeing a therapist to work on this, but he's working on this with me like a snail. If I could find friends who'd be present for the first weeks trying to get along without the boyfriend, I think in the long run, I'd be less lonely and free to find someone else. But, that's not what I have. So what do you do in my situation? My coping tips (they are not all mentally sound--but they are just for coping): Take long hot baths Watch public television Talk to my son Write emails to my friend Go to sleep early---sleep long as possible Fill all the hours with as much work as you can take on Read Meditate Organize Last edited by Ashima; Jan 22, 2014 at 05:16 PM.. Reason: fixed sentence that didn't make sense |
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#84
Sleeping alone at night, I always miss sleeping with another person.
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